The bride is a business director who washed 50 wedding dishes, causing a stir.
Ms. Nguyen Dan Tam said she was used to cleaning up the tables and it only took her more than two hours to wash the dishes from 50 tables.
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For the 34-year-old female director, cleaning up a pile of dishes like this is normal and is often done whenever her husband's family has something to do. |
On the afternoon of February 25, before she could change into her dress to attend a relative’s wedding, Ms. Dan Tam, 34 years old, started to clean up 50 trays of dishes and chopsticks lying in the yard. More than two hours later, the pile of dishes and chopsticks was cleaned up by the bride who married a man from Nam Dinh.
Ms. Tam said that her husband's hometown has a custom of having the guests from the groom's and bride's families finish eating before going to pick up the bride. That day, everyone was in a hurry to pick up the bride and prepare to welcome the bride's family. Moreover, the wedding was on Tet holiday, and the people in the hometown were planting rice at this time, so everyone was busy going back to the fields and couldn't help her.
"I do it naturally and don't feel pressured. Many people don't believe me and say I only take photos and post them online to get likes, but in fact, that's what I've been doing for the past 14 years since I got married."
For a female business director, having to wash a mountain of dishes by herself is a normal thing. Every year, whenever there is a holiday, Tet or when her husband's family has a party, she takes care of cooking, shopping and washing all the dishes.
Tam's husband is the only son in a family of two children and the only grandchild of the fifth generation of the family. According to Tam, women, especially daughters-in-law in the countryside with a strong feudal ideology like hers, are often assumed to do washing dishes, shopping, and cooking. In families with many daughters-in-law, housework is shared and supported. Tam is the eldest daughter-in-law, so she has to take care of everything, with only occasional help from her grandchildren. The mother of three said that now that she has returned to her hometown, she has become a grandmother but still "can't avoid" any feast, except for the small ones.
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Ms. Tam was surprised to receive a lot of attention since her husband posted a photo of her washing the wedding dishes online. |
Since her husband took a photo of her and the dishes and posted it online, Tam's life has been a bit chaotic because of the sudden attention she has received from many people. Born and raised in Son La city, she was taught how to cook from a young age, so she is good at housework. Therefore, when she received many compliments, she was surprised.
Tam recalled her wedding day more than ten years ago. At that time, the ceremony had just ended, she had not yet had time to wash off her makeup or remove her hairpins, she had only changed into her home clothes and rushed to wash the dishes. After finishing, she also had to spread out a tarp to dry chicken feathers. At first, she was a bit sad, but because she had prepared herself mentally, she quickly got to work.
"On the first day of my marriage, I had to pass a test from my mother-in-law. She gave me 5 roosters and asked me to make 6 trays of food. Everyone in the family was waiting to see if I could pass this challenge. But in just a moment, I finished. The whole family was surprised when they came home from a trip to see the full tray of food," said Ms. Tam.
After that, her mother-in-law felt secure in handing over all the big and small jobs to her eldest daughter-in-law.
