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It happened more than a week ago but the awkward feeling has not gone away. The story is that on Sunday morning, I was sitting in a coffee shop, chatting on Facebook with a classmate. Seeing that the trend of taking pictures with lotus flowers was gaining attention from netizens, I also stopped by a rather unique frame and of course that photo received a lot of comments. Seeing that it was interesting, I turned my phone around and turned the photo to face my classmate, thinking that I would get some support, but unexpectedly, my usually quiet friend waved his hand as if chasing away flies and said, "Please delete it." "What's the matter?" I asked again. "She's my mother-in-law." "Really?" I asked, my friend replied sadly: "Really, it hurts." Seeing that the atmosphere seemed to be off-key, I changed the subject: "Having a cool mother-in-law like that is great." My friend blushed and explained: "It's embarrassing. Since it appeared all over the internet, no one in the family looked at each other for more than 2 seconds. It's so embarrassing." I asked: "Is the old lady embarrassed?" You were silent for a moment and then let out a sentence, "I'm embarrassed."

I will not discuss the photo in detail, she must be old, the desire for rejuvenation sometimes makes people slip beyond the control of their emotions. She is not ugly, her wrinkled skin and her breasts that "accompany time" are undeniable evidence of thousands of days of sacrifice throughout her life as a wife, a mother, even a grandmother. Everyone has to leave their beauty to the past, at that age, she was able to salvage and hold on to that much, which is a tremendous effort. There are structures that cannot be reinforced, even if they are created by nature! But that does not mean she does not have the right to reminisce! She even has the right to delude herself about an eternal beauty full of vitality of her twenties. She also has the right to claim back time in her own way and hold on to things that she did not have the chance to experience in the past. I only ask her one small thing, lotus is very elegant, please do not embarrass lotus!

Oh, and what is embarrassment? If we say embarrassment, it is a combination of awkwardness and unnaturalness in gestures, walking, and speaking, due to not being used to it, for example, "The gesture of receiving the envelope from the head of the human resources department is still very awkward". If we say embarrassment, it is feeling ashamed, embarrassed, embarrassed, and unnatural with someone. For example: "In front of so many district delegates coming to direct the congress, our boss took the stage and exploded a series of self-composed poems that made everyone blush". Embarrassment is one of the healthy emotions of humans. It is formed on the basis of personal ego and social ethics standards. Embarrassment is a feeling of shame within a certain limit in a specific situation. Embarrassment can only be the feeling of a normal person. People with mental illness or mental disorders almost completely lose this wonderful emotion. But strangely, in society, in the community or even right next to us, there are still people who are not crazy, nor mentally disordered, but we have never seen them feel embarrassed. Either they are "battery-worn" or they just know "internal embarrassment". In an agency, there was an employee who worked 26 days a month, but 25 of them were late and the last day was early. Yet at the weekly meeting, she still loudly stated, "We request that our comrades who go to work must be on time." At the end of the year, when the title was evaluated, she volunteered to run for emulation fighter with a golden declaration like turmeric juice, "Please give me a little extra time this time to get a raise ahead of schedule. I'm sorry, I only have 20 more years to retire." She was not embarrassed, that was part of her facial structure, but she could not read the feeling of embarrassment in others, which was a true personality disaster. There are many of this type, and many of this type as well. Folklore calls this group of people "the tribe of broken nerves of shame".

The terrible forest fire in Ha Tinh has temporarily ended with an upcoming sentence for the perpetrator who sent 50 hectares of forest “to the ground”. In those days of boiling water and fire, humanity was also rekindled. Thousands of free meals from a restaurant in Vinh reached the fire fighting force. It was touching and admirable. Only that while the fire and smoke were raging like crazy, on hundreds of websites, people were sitting huddled in air-conditioned rooms, sneaking around to steal photos from Hanoi, even grabbing photos of forest fires in the US, stuffing them into articles and embedding them with winged praises, competing to squeeze out words of crying and wailing for hire as if they were burning from the Hong Linh fire. When exposed for stealing photos and manipulating information, they hastily and clumsily deleted the “music and lyrics” without even a quarter of an apology. Oh my, what to say now, maybe just "laughing" for fun, but if they had any shame, they wouldn't have acted so indecently and brazenly. Embarrassing!

Do you remember a few years ago, when the Formosa incident happened, you immediately incited people to protest in groups of three or four, with slogans like “Save the sea” “Save the people of HT”, but last week when the forest was on fire, thousands of people rushed into the fire to save the forest, these “rescuers” were hiding somewhere in the sun. See, understand, are you embarrassed?

Yesterday, the writer of this article was surfing the news and read information about a BOT station complaining about losses and bluntly stating, “If you continue to lose money like this, please return the station to the State.” Wow, I felt so “sympathetic” that my heart sank. Suddenly, I remembered what Mr. Vuong Dinh Hue said when he was the Minister of Finance: “The State does not threaten anyone, and no one should threaten the State.” Yes, if the BOT station is losing money, then pay it back, pay it back and the people will manage it, don’t threaten it. The State manages society by law, it doesn’t coax or appease anyone! Shame!

There are many things to say about embarrassment, so I would like to spend the rest of this article mentioning a recent statement by a prestigious former leader that has received special attention from the press. On June 29, the Ho Chi Minh City Party Committee held a “Scientific Conference on 50 Years of the Ho Chi Minh City Party Committee, Government and People Implementing the Sacred Testament of President Ho Chi Minh”. At the conference, the statement by a former city leader really created a positive effect, resonated in the community and was quoted by many newspapers.

After scientific synthesis, in-depth analysis and logical guidance on the development process with outstanding achievements of the city, becoming the economic locomotive of the whole country, he also frankly pointed out the remaining problems that need to be focused on overcoming: "Party building work in some aspects is still limited, a part of cadres and party members are wavering in political qualities, "self-evolution", "self-transformation", degradation, decline in moral qualities; Party building work in terms of politics, ideology, organization and building the political system has not kept up with the requirements of tasks in the new period...".

Amidst the chaos and complexity of the Thu Thiem incident, the speech of the former city leader is like a wake-up call. Many newspapers quoted this important, frank and extremely profound speech. Thank you for seeing and calling out the shortcomings to overcome them. You are so right, now more than ever is the time to clear the mud and bring out the clear. Quickly complete a public authority that is truly of the people, by the people and for the people. We need to be vigilant against those who want to do everything but do not set an example, want to know everything but do not know… shame.