Many parents actively show off their children's report cards.

In recent days, many parents have been posting their children's report cards on social networks. Although many people claim that they do not care about achievements and scores; and although 9s and 10s have become "universal scores", report cards still have a strange attraction for everyone. Many parents' minds are still stuck around their children's scores.

Many people commented, shared, praised, and evaluated... but behind that, there were many hidden feelings. Most obviously, many parents could not escape the mentality of comparing their children with other people's children, even though it may not be intentional.

At the end of the school year, parents actively show off their children's report cards on social networks.

Not only praising their children for being good students and getting high scores, some parents, when looking at the report cards of "other people's children", immediately complain that their children's scores are not as good as theirs. Some complain that their children's scores are still only... 9.5 like the previous semester and cannot improve, or that their children are still ranked 7th in the class like the previous semester. Some also regret that if they only had a point more, their children would have been first...

Since June 2017, the Law on Children has been in effect, and the issue of parents posting their children's report cards online has been raised. Accordingly, parents who want to post personal information, including their children's scores, online must ask for their children's permission, otherwise they will be breaking the law. This not only protects children's personal information, but also ensures their safety.

Regarding the issue of children's scores, experts say that parents may be excited to share it for fun, but they do not fully anticipate the impact this will have on their children. Many children do not like their parents to show off their scores, or have their problems dissected, discussed, and argued about by everyone...

Even compliments for high scores can create unnecessary pressure on students, which can subconsciously create a mindset of studying for scores. Many students rush into studying, sacrificing many things just to get high scores to please their parents.

A psychologist in Ho Chi Minh City shared that many parents assume their children are talented and good based on their scores. From there, they are proud and flatter their children too much. This can lead to two states: the child is ashamed and loses confidence, or on the contrary, some children are delusional and do not see their true abilities.

As someone who is very interested in the field of education, journalist and writer Truong Anh Ngoc shared that at the end of the school year, he observed that scores "heated up". A child's score can be a source of pride for some parents, but can also be a source of shame for others. Either because their child makes them unable to raise their heads, or because the parents understand that their child is not that good, but maybe because of the school's achievements, the child is "considered" for a higher score.

According to Mr. Ngoc, for many parents, without scores, they do not know whether their children are good or bad; do not know how smart their children are compared to their neighbors' children, or how bad they are... Many parents see their children as an ornament for themselves and their family. That invisibly deprives their children of many opportunities to study and live a healthy life.

Then the teachers' overemphasis on grades also pushes parents into a race for face. Ngoc's close friend came home from a parent-teacher conference and said that the teacher only talked about grades and grades. She said this student was excellent, that student was too bad without looking around the class to see the parents' feelings.

In many of her talks with parents, Dr. Nguyen Thi Bich Hong (Ho Chi Minh City University of Education) emphasized that children who achieve high scores while studying are not successful children in life. This requires parents to know how to balance learning knowledge with cultivating life values ​​and life skills.