Danger signs in marriage

You feel lonely

When you feel like your spouse isn’t listening to you or that they’re too busy with their own needs, you’ll feel very lonely. American psychologist Rachel A. Sussman says that this loneliness is a sign of major problems in your marriage. You have to pay attention to this sign and share that feeling with your spouse.

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You don't want to argue anymore

It may sound counterintuitive, but arguing is often helpful. Indifference is the big problem.

“A lack of fighting is a red flag because you don’t want to cause more trouble or you’ve given up on your desires and desires,” says psychologist Dr. Julie Binderman. “This leads to a lack of connection and a feeling that you’re just roommates and not a couple.”

No more thinking about sex

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According to a survey by Relationships In America, nearly 12% of marriages are sexless or almost sexless. Problems in life sometimes make you avoid it for a long time or are rejected by your partner. If this situation persists, there will be a big problem, such as a lack of emotional intimacy or romance.

You don't enjoy being with the other person.

You find yourself wanting to be with other people more than your spouse. If you constantly want to go out with friends rather than stay home with your spouse, you need to confront and address those feelings immediately or your marriage will inevitably fall apart if not repaired, says Sussman.

You want to show off on social media

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If you always want to share how “amazing” your partner is on social media, something might be wrong.

A study published in the American journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin in July 2015 said: "When a person feels insecure about their partner's feelings, they tend to want others to see their relationship."

The next time you're about to post photos of your partner on social media, ask yourself if you're trying to convince yourself that everything is okay.

You are always worried about financial problems

If you’re constantly worrying about bills or finding a new job, you’re less likely to be in the mood for romance. According to a US study, marriages of low-income couples are more vulnerable to stressful life events and more likely to have mental health problems than wealthier couples. However, if you work together, you can easily eliminate or reduce these unnecessary factors.

You flirt with your “ex”

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If you occasionally talk to your ex in a flirtatious way, rather than as a friend, then you have a big problem. Many (but not all) people stay in touch with their exes when they are married because they want to get back together or because they want sex outside of marriage. Ask yourself why you are contacting your “ex.” If it is for unchaste reasons, then you are endangering your marriage.

You have not been happy for a long time

“When a couple is on the brink of breaking up, they don’t have fun,” says Sussman. “You really feel like you haven’t been happy with your partner in years.” If you can’t remember the last time you had fun together, that’s a real danger.

Accepting these truths is difficult, but it is better to act now before you let yourself drift into an unhappy marriage and suffer greater pain later./

According to Infonet