Danger signs in marriage

You feel lonely

When you feel like your spouse isn’t listening to you or that they’re too busy with their own needs, you can feel very lonely. American psychologist Rachel A. Sussman says that this loneliness is a sign of major problems in your marriage. You should pay attention to this sign and share that feeling with your spouse.

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You don't want to argue anymore

It may sound counterintuitive, but arguing is often helpful. Indifference is the big problem.

“A lack of fighting is a red flag because you don’t want to cause more trouble or you’ve given up on your desires and needs,” says psychologist Julie Binderman, PhD. “This leads to a lack of connection and a feeling that you’re just roommates and not a couple.”

No more thinking about sex

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According to a survey by Relationships In America, nearly 12% of marriages are sexless or almost sexless. Life issues sometimes cause you to avoid sex for a long time or your partner rejects it. If this situation persists, there will be a big problem, such as a lack of emotional intimacy or romance.

You don't feel like being with the other person.

You find yourself wanting to be with other people more than your spouse. If you consistently want to go out with friends rather than stay home with your spouse, you need to confront and address those feelings immediately or your marriage will inevitably fall apart if not repaired, says Sussman.

You want to show off on social media

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If you always want to share how “amazing” your partner is on social media, something might be wrong.

A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin in July 2015 said: "When a person feels insecure about their partner's feelings, they tend to want others to see their relationship."

Next time you're about to post photos of your partner on social media, ask yourself if you're trying to convince yourself that everything is okay.

You are always worried about financial problems

If you’re constantly worrying about bills or finding a new job, you’re not going to have the energy to create romance. According to a US study, marriages of low-income couples are more vulnerable to stressful life events and have more mental health problems than wealthier couples. However, if you work together, you can easily eliminate or reduce these unnecessary factors.

You flirt with your “ex”

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If you occasionally talk to your ex in a flirtatious way, rather than as a friend, then you have a big problem. Many (but not all) people stay in touch with their exes when they are married because they want to get back together with them or because they want sex outside of marriage. Ask yourself what your purpose is in contacting your “ex.” If it’s for less than pure reasons, then you’re endangering your marriage.

You have not been happy for a long time

“When a couple is on the brink of divorce, they don’t have fun,” says Sussman. “You really feel like you haven’t been happy with your partner in years.” If you can’t remember the last time you had fun together, that’s a real danger zone.

Accepting these truths is difficult, but it's better to act now before you let yourself drift into an unhappy marriage and suffer even greater pain later./

According to Infonet