The 'lovely' lies of husbands

Men love with their eyes and women love with their ears. Below are some 'harmless lies' that husbands sometimes use to maintain peace in the family.

"Sure honey, that dress looks nice!"

Why he says so: Avoid trouble.

Similar sentences are: "Of course you don't look fat in this outfit", "I think the wallpaper you chose is beautiful"...Men use these little lies to avoid hurting their partners and to make their lives easier.

"Lying at this level is a way to defuse conflict between the two of you. It doesn't mean your husband doesn't care about what you wear or how you decorate your home. It just means he realizes that expressing his opinion could mean canceling a trip or spending an extra hour at the furniture store," ProfessorArthur L. Kovacs, a psychologist in Santa Monica, California, USA, said.

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"I can fix it!"

Why he said that: Ego protection.

Whether it’s home repairs, grilling, or tuning a stereo, men feel like they need to know everything about something. If they can’t fix something themselves, they claim they can because they fear admitting it will make them look less manly.

These lies tend to diminish over time when couples divide household duties according to each person's actual abilities rather than traditional gender roles. "Let your husband know he's lovable for who he is, not the problem-solver," says Kovacs.

"I didn't look at her"

Why he says so: To balance his biological instincts with the warmth of his family.

No matter how long you have been in love and married, your husband will definitely not be able to stop being attracted to other women. When a beautiful woman walks by, men will notice.

It's a perfectly normal reaction, but why lie? Because you don't like the truth. "Men understand that they naturally like to look, but at the same time they know they have to treat their wives as if they're the only ones they care about," says psychologist Kovacs.

"No problem!"

Why he said that: To hide his emotional wounds.

Men also have times when they feel sad and depressed. For women, that is an opportunity to confide, comfort, and bond. But for men, the attention of their wives at that time only makes them feel like their mood is being exposed.

"If I find a solution, I'm happy to tell my wife. But if I can't change the situation, I just want to go outside, go to the garage or meet some friends," said Jared, 31.

"I tried to call you!"

Why he said that: In defense.

All men secretly think of themselves as saints—or at least extremely good men. They can’t understand how women can be disappointed in their husbands when they’ve given up their single lives to “get into a trap.” So when their wives get angry because their husbands don’t call, or come home late, or forget to buy their cigarettes, men will come up with all sorts of excuses.

"Whenever I do something wrong, my wife exaggerates, so I lie to avoid trouble because sometimes saying sorry will only get me more torture. If I admit that I forgot to call her when I was out with my close friends, she will say that I just forgot about her. The safest way is to pretend that my phone ran out of battery or was broken," said the husband, Jay, 34 years old.

"You are the best, my love"

Why he says it: To make you glad you married him.

Actually, all men get a little creative in describing their bravery, their past glory, and their important role in the workplace. They just want their wives to know that they married a good man.

It's hard for an average guy to accept that everything about him is average - driving an average car, working an average job, having a mediocre salary... And they want to exaggerate a little to make themselves seem more important, more admirable.

"Your ex-girlfriend? She's just normal"

Why he said that: In defense.

Do details from the past become joint property when two people get married? With wives, men are obligated to declare how many girls they slept with and how great they were. When faced with probing questions like this, how do men respond?

"My wife once asked me if I had ever cheated on my ex-girlfriend. Actually, I did once, but I know women often think that men easily 'fall back into old habits', so I answered 'no'. I hate lying, but I know that question is a trap, it will turn into 'have you ever cheated on me?' and then I become a sinner," a husband named Bob, 32 years old, expressed.

When men anticipate that telling the truth will sow seeds of doubt or cause unnecessary hurt, they often lie.

"I will never lie to you"

Why did he say so: To live happily ever after.

This is a reassurance from men because they know that sometimes women want to hear things to feel secure, not the truth.

According to VNE