Meritorious Artist Cong Ninh opens up about his marriage with a wife 22 years younger

Actor and director Cong Ninh is often remembered by audiences for his austere, honest, and gentle roles on the small screen.

In real life, the male artist married Tuyet Van - also an actress, nearly 2 decades younger than him. Despite the large age gap and many arguments, their married life is still peaceful and happy because the two know how to give in and love each other. 6 years ago, Cong Ninh and Tuyet Van happily welcomed their daughter Oscar into the world, when he was 53 years old.

Tuyet Van - director Cong Ninh's wife was a student at the University of Theatre and Cinema in Ho Chi Minh City where Cong Ninh taught. After graduating, she worked as a voice actress and then an actress on stage at 5B Vo Van Tan, Ho Chi Minh City.

Becoming a guest in the talk show “What do the fathers say” episode 26, Meritorious Artist Cong Ninh confided about his small family. He recalled his feelings when he first met his daughter: “The first time in my life I saw my child, it was so strange. At that time, I was like: Oh, I have a child!”. Cong Ninh shared that during the time his wife “gave birth”, he could not be there to take care of her because of his filming schedule. He heard that his wife was giving birth in the afternoon, but it was late at night when he finished work to run home to his wife and child.

With a busy schedule taking up all the time to rest with his family, artist Cong Ninh has his own thoughts on the secret to keeping the fire of marriage alive: “No matter what, in everyday life there must be something that we disagree on and then create conflicts. I choose to react silently instead of confronting or arguing with actions and words. Men have to be patient, women need to vent their anger through words or actions, so what do we lose? I have to be patient with anyone but my wife.”

Besides, the actor absolutely does not support the method of resolving conflicts by physical contact. Domestic violence is never an option: “We are men, hitting women is not allowed. Why would we suddenly hit someone weaker than us?”

Artist Cong Ninh's small family, daughter Oscar is 6 years old this year.

Cong Ninh confided that on many issues, the couple would only talk for a while before arguing again. “I always withdraw, let my wife finish speaking, then defend whatever point I want to defend, because I think there is no need to argue about it,” the director said about his reaction to the times when his wife and he argued.

However, there are times when the male artist has to fight to the end when his wife makes unreasonable decisions about education and raising children. Therefore, many times his analysis is correct, and his wife also gives in and accepts. “To maintain harmony in the family, the husband and wife should also have moments of mutual concession. Don’t be so self-conscious that you have to defend yourself at all costs,” Cong Ninh said.

Currently, Meritorious Artist Cong Ninh is devoting all his time to work, because of the pressure of making a living, the economy does not allow it, so even if he wants to be closer to his family, he cannot. He believes that in today's era, women will not feel sorry for their husbands when they are immersed in work, but instead they will be proud and admire that their men are still healthy, respected and can do their jobs.

Despite the age gap and frequent arguments, Cong Ninh's married life is peaceful because they both know how to be patient with each other.

Through a secret video prepared by the crew, the wife of artist Cong Ninh - Tuyet Van shared that despite being busy with work, Cong Ninh loves his wife and children very much, even pampering his daughter which his wife thinks is too "excessive". The male artist does not make his wife worry too much even though he often has to go on business trips far away.

She emotionally recalled the time when Cong Ninh was seriously ill but could not be there to take care of him because his child was too young. At that time, the male artist isolated himself from everyone and struggled with treatment alone. Tuyet Van felt guilty for leaving her husband alone at that time and only focused on taking care of her daughter Oscar.