The truth about the love affair between Lam Chi Khanh and the Vietnamese national football player
In her autobiography, Lam Chi Khanh confided about her 3-year love affair with Vietnamese football player D.D., from the time when he was not yet famous. Let's hear what the truth of that past love story is.
The autobiography "Metamorphosis" by Lam Khanh Chi (formerly known as Lam Chi Khanh) is considered a diary recording the 40-year journey filled with joys and sorrows, storms and sunshine that the female singer has gone through. Below are some typical excerpts from this autobiography so that readers can understand more about the career, spiritual life and past love stories of this transgender female singer.
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Lam Chi Khanh had a love affair with a Vietnamese football player when she had not yet undergone gender reassignment surgery. |
“If I were a girl, would you leave me?”
There are loves at first sight that leave a lingering echo in the heart.
There are images that make us linger forever.
I am lucky to have known love at first sight and understand its intense "destructive" power.
In 2003, the first time I saw D.D in my house, I couldn't lift my feet to walk. The young man wore a white T-shirt, had a strong body, a beautifully sculpted face and an extremely warm smile.
A very strong emotion ran through my body, at that moment our eyes met and we smiled at each other.
My 26-year-old heart, which had already suffered many injuries, was “shocked”. After a moment of losing my composure, I tried to walk back to my room, but my mind wanted to stay and look at him. I fell in love with him without hesitation, right from that brief moment.
D.D is my younger brother's friend. When my younger brother told D.D that the singer Lam Chi Khanh that D.D admired was his older brother, D. didn't believe it so he came to my house to meet me. D.D's eyes made me fall in love with them.
The moment I saw D.D., my heart was pounding, aching, sweating, and I couldn't sit still. My eyes couldn't leave D.D. My body was shaking. I wanted to say something to D.D. but couldn't utter a word.
I felt very clearly the violent shock that love at first sight caused. D. filled my mind.
And we fell in love, very naturally, as fast as the blink of an eye with a gentle beginning like a light breath. I have never loved anyone so strongly and... unreasonably. That was the first minute of a passionate, intense and endless love.
When we first met, Đ.Đ. was only 17 years old, a potential player taking his first steps in his football career. Every day, around 5 pm, after practice, he came to me. Every day was like that, for three years. I was so attracted to him that I lost the ability to think. I silently canceled my shows in the US, Australia, Canada, etc. because I couldn't be away from him. He almost didn't know that because I didn't say anything, I was afraid he would be sad, I just wanted to be happy every day with him. Just seeing him made my heart sing sweet, emotional melodies. Standing on stage, looking down at thousands of spectators, I only saw him.
At 26, I had money, career, and fame, but none of them were as important to me as Đ.Đ. I considered him “One, Unique, and First”. As long as I had Đ., I had the whole world. That was all I needed.
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Lam Chi Khanh fell in love with the 17 year old player when he was not yet famous. |
In 2003, D.'s family faced many difficulties and could not provide much for him. A month of hard training and competition but his salary was only 1.5 million VND, no matter how much he saved, he was always short of money. One day, D.D confided to me:
- Many days I just eat instant noodles to get through the day.
- Oh my god, you train so hard but how can you eat like that?
- But should I ask my parents for money?
- Don't think too much, Khanh can take care of you.
- I can't do that, how can I let Khanh worry.
- Khanh loves you...
I held D.'s hand tightly. I don't know why, but when I said I would take care of D., my heart became so warm. I felt sorry for D. when he was sad, hungry, tired. I just wanted D. to be happy, to focus on his passion. I was excited about the "mission" of taking care of my "husband". I saw D. eating well, I saw him smiling, I saw him playing on the field,... All of those images left very sweet melodies in my heart.
When I sat behind him on the bike, breathing in his breath, his scent, I also felt happy. When I looked at him, even though he was silent, my heart was filled with happiness, it seemed like everything about him was very familiar, like it had belonged to me for a long time, like it touched something deep and sacred of mine from a previous life, like it came from my subconscious.
Maybe I am luckier than everyone else because my family and the people around me do not seem to discriminate, scold or prevent me from returning to my true gender. The love between Đ.Đ and I is the same, just like when singer Đ.T and I were in love, my parents accepted having another child. My mother said: "If you feel Đ. is necessary to your life, I will agree."
My father silently held back a sigh. I knew he was unhappy, but he did not object. Perhaps that was why, even though I did not have an inferiority complex, we were still very secretive from the beginning for fear of being criticized by others.
I asked D.D.:
- Are you afraid that everyone will know our relationship?
He took my hand and said:
- I will love Khanh forever no matter what.
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D. was 19 years old, living his dream, playing football and coming home to eat dinner with me, going to shows with me at night, life had never been so peaceful. We loved each other, but only people in the family knew, and outsiders still thought they were two close friends, no one criticized or ridiculed us. I was busy worrying about D. in an increasingly strong hope for that love. D. became a handsome, stylish player, lacking nothing. But a sadness still smoldered in D.'s heart about an uncertain future.
- Khanh…
- Yes, Khanh listen...
- D. wants to retire from football. Khanh, please open a garden cafe for D. to manage!
- Why do you have to do that?
- Playing for this team forever and getting nowhere.
- Let Khanh take care of this for you...
At the age of 20, D.D was invited to play by the coach of team C. D was very happy, his sadness disappeared, he was like a seagull spreading its wings on the ocean, free and full of power. I went to see his coach, talked about him, asked him to care for him, and create favorable conditions for him to develop his career.
We sat together very peacefully, but for some reason a fear suddenly arose in my heart. I was afraid of losing him, afraid of our love breaking up. Just thinking about it made my heart ache with a very real pain. No matter how soft, gentle, patient and sacrificial my soul was, there was still a bitter truth: I was not a girl. A boy who lived like thatcoupleFor a man, in the eyes of society, that is still abnormal and unacceptable. I told him:
- How will we get together? Khanh will change gender, okay?
D.D hugged me and said:
- Khanh doesn't need to do anything. Khanh, please believe in D. How can D bear it when Khanh has to change her whole life to become a girl just for him?
- Are you afraid Khanh will die soon? But we...
- Khanh, don't be afraid of anything. I will love you until we are old, until we die. I will never get married just to be with you.
- What about your family?
- Khanh's feelings for me are very strong. I will explain to everyone...
I pressed my face against D.'s chest, sobbing. D.'s chest was warm and firm. D. said nothing more. That night, I lay beside D. peacefully, without dreams. I no longer had any doubts about our love. D was so devoted to me, so sincere and passionate about me, he would not deceive me.
Đ.Đ's football is getting better and better, he has the qualities of a football star. I bought him a SH motorbike for him to ride around. Đ was very happy, he innocently said:
- Even the star players in the football team have not had an SH yet, Khanh! D. is so lucky!
We laughed happily together.
At that time, I was very happy to take care of Đ.Đ. I naturally considered it the responsibility of a wife to take care of her husband. I wanted the whole world to know my love. I wanted Đ.Đ to understand that for love I could sacrifice everything.
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When in love, Lam Chi Khanh sacrifices everything for the person he loves. |
Around 2009, when my career was almost at rock bottom, D.D. suddenly became a star on the football field. He joined the national team and officially became one of the most promising players. I only dared to stand from afar and watch him, ask for news about him through his younger brother, and learn about his life through newspaper articles.
“You have become a star, that’s enough…”, I thought and stopped calling D., who knows, maybe it was me, at this time, if I appeared by his side, I would become an obstacle. As long as he became more and more successful, I would be happy, I didn’t need anything more.
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The three-year relationship with N.D.D became the most beautiful love story of my youth. Even though after that, I struggled for more than 10 years in desperate anticipation of his return, I still see those as the most passionate and happiest days of my youth.
According to PN&GD