I'm scared because my husband has such high needs.

Now I don't dare wear pajamas or anything short or my husband will jump at me. He also tore a lot of my clothes.

I got married at 21, my husband is 7 years older than me. I "fell in love" with him because of the way he spoke, he was smart but very modest, so I agreed to marry him when he was very young. We have been married for 5 years but he doesn't want to have children because he said he wants to enjoy his time as a newlywed couple before thinking about having a baby, he also said that children are not that important so he will let them happen naturally, when they come, they will come.

I currently work from home 100%, before pursuing my dream of becoming a teacher, I also opened a shop exclusively for women but only sold fixed hours. Seeing that the shop was doing well, with a higher income than my salary, I quit to stay home and manage the shop, while my husband worked for a private company, he was also very good at that field so he got an extra bonus every year. When we were still in love, there were times when I wanted to go too far out of curiosity but he refused, saying that he wanted to experience that sacred thing with me on our wedding night, he could wait. Hearing him say that, I loved him even more because he knew how to think ahead, take care of me and respect me.

On our wedding night, my husband was very gentle and romantic, asking me questions and he was a bit confused because he had no experience. That was the most meaningful night for me. From then on, our sex life got better and better. My husband was bolder and not as naive as before. I really liked that, but 6 months after the wedding, I started to be shocked because he was so strong. I have high needs, but my husband still shocked me. He was bold and wanted affection every day, no matter where he was, in the car, on the terrace...

During the Euro season, my husband asked to work from home, which meant that it was normal for him to stay up until morning before going to bed, and I also had to stay up all night with him (my husband's job doesn't value time). I thought he would forgive me because he loved watching football, but no, he could still do two jobs at once. Sometimes I said "Honey, please forgive me" and he agreed, but when I woke up in the morning, I found my clothes flying away, lying in my husband's arms. Many times I said no because I was busy, and he said that I could do it later. Gradually, I didn't dare to wear pajamas, or anything short, otherwise my husband would rush in. My clothes were also torn quite a bit by him, but he didn't know, and innocently asked where my clothes were. He even bought some skimpy pajamas.

One night, I was lucky enough to be forgiven by my husband because we were betting, if I won, he would listen to me. That was the only day my husband kept his promise to forgive me 100%, when I woke up in the morning, my clothes were still on. Normally, I only get to rest when my husband is on a business trip, but he doesn't forget to video chat and ask to see a bit, sometimes I don't want to but my husband keeps saying "Then when you come back, you have to pay three times more" which scares me.

Once, because of my husband, I was so embarrassed that my mother-in-law barged in. I didn't know how to explain, and my mother-in-law just stood there motionless. I often felt that my husband treated me like a sex doll, but I didn't say anything because I was still uncertain whether I was right or wrong, and I didn't want to "slander" my husband. The matter was so sensitive that I didn't tell anyone, I only dared to write it here as a way to confide in my relatives to ease the pain.

Everyone, please tell me, is there any man like my husband? Am I being too negative? I don't know men well so I don't understand their personalities. I've only had sex with one man in my life so I have no idea how men think about this sensitive matter.I am also a person with high needs but my husband makes me feel scared. I often feel unhappy because of my husband's actions, because he is too "mixed". I want to refuse him but I don't know how to say it nicely so that the other person doesn't feel like I am being rejected or criticized. Please help me.

According to VNE