I thought I married a gallant husband but ended up marrying a 'bad boy'.

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"My honeymoon turned into a total disappointment for me. After the wedding, with a child in my belly, I also had to shoulder my husband's debt that fell from the sky and felt like I was cheated," the 27-year-old girl confided.

Hang and her husband dated for 8 months before getting married. During that time, the receptionist at a media company in Dong Da, Hanoi was very proud of her tall, polite boyfriend who often cared for and bought things for his girlfriend.

After getting married, Hang discovered that her husband owed the bank 400 million VND, and had to pay 6 million VND in principal and interest each month. His salary was 10 million VND per month, so after paying off the debt, he kept it for pocket money and had no money left to give to his wife. Hang asked where this debt came from, and her husband said that it was because he had previously lost money playing the stock market, plus he had spent money on buying a scooter and preparing for a grand wedding.

"I was extremely disappointed because I always thought that after getting married, my husband and I would strive to buy our own house. But in this situation, that was just a dream. Just getting married and seeing my husband made me feel depressed," Hang confided.

Ảnh minh hoạ: Internet.

Illustration photo: US News Money.

Also falling into the situation of finding out she had to bear debt after getting married, Minh Tuyet (Gia Lam, Hanoi) was shocked when she heard this news not from her husband.

Tuyet said her husband is the youngest son in a family of three brothers, both of whose parents are farmers. When she went to her husband's hometown in the suburbs of Hanoi to meet his family, she stood staring at the massive gate of his house. The three-story house had seven rooms, even though only the two of them and the eldest brother's family were there.

She felt proud every time she went out to eat with friends, her boyfriend always paid. When she was looking for a job, he asked her if she wanted to work for a government agency, he was willing to spend money and use his connections to get her a job. Having passed the exam to enter a large corporation, she refused but felt grateful. Tuyet's parents were quite fond of their future son-in-law because every time he visited home, he brought gifts for the adults and children.

Two months after the wedding, on the day she returned home for the anniversary, Tuyet was shocked to hear her father-in-law announce that the house cost 800 million to build last year, the eldest brother paid 400 million, and the remaining two couples contributed 200 million because each had a share in it. The whole family had agreed on this beforehand, Tuyet had just returned and didn't know, so he told her again. Currently, this money was borrowed from the bank, so if Tuyet and her husband didn't have the money to pay it now, they would have to pay interest every month.

"I sat there like a log. We had just started working for a few years and were renting a house in Hanoi. Where did we get that much money? The bigger problem was why my husband didn't say anything," Tuyet sighed.

According to Master of Psychology Le Thi Minh Hoa, Institute of Psychology and Legal Education (HCMC), when in love, many young girls only look at the appearance, feel pampered and secure when their boyfriend spends lavishly, or gives gifts to them and their family.

They forget to learn more about the core values ​​of life, views on money, how to spend, save... of men. And when married, having to face the daily problem of making ends meet, many couples have conflicts because the husband has the habit of using money to show off and has little responsibility for his wife and children.

Worse, because of this habit of showing off, he may fall into debt and try to hide his love life.

Ms. Minh Hoa believes that to understand a man's spending habits and true financial capabilities, girls need to spend enough time getting to know him, talk frankly, and observe their lover's daily lifestyle.

Look at how he treats people around him, from family, friends, colleagues to waiters in the restaurant..., not just look at how he cares for you. Don't be afraid to bring up problems, hypothetical situations to "test" him. Make a clear distinction between him using money to show off and his thoughtfulness and genuine concern for you.

According to psychologists, money has a huge impact on marital happiness. Therefore, if you are serious about your relationship, you need to be honest with each other about your income, spending habits, and future plans.

Most cases of debt only come to light after marriage because the couple has not discussed it openly or one party deliberately hides it. Many girls today are still hesitant to discuss financial issues with their boyfriends and are afraid of being judged as materialistic. However, sometimes, because the debt is related to their own or their family's bad habits and weaknesses such as gambling, wasteful spending, etc., the people involved try to cover it up.

According to VNE

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