'What other people think of you is their business, not yours'

“Finding yourself” is what Dr. Menis Yousry - a psychologist in the field of personal development, psychotherapy for family life and relationships, offers to help people have a happy life.

From a psychological perspective, he believes that each person has a shell built from mistakes and fears that have happened in their past. Over time, they believe that this shell is their true nature.

Psychologist Dr. Menis Yousry: "Finding yourself - healing emotional wounds".

According to him, in modern life, everyone has their own pressures from work, children, finances, etc. Therefore, if you want to be happy, feel freer, and be able to overcome personal limits you have never reached, you must break through this shell.

He said, in life, everyone, more or less, has to experience rejection, loss, or hurt of some kind.

For example: You have problems in your love life or you are betrayed by someone you trust. You often tend to suppress that hurt by torturing yourself, some people drown themselves in alcohol, cigarettes… And that hurt will linger with you for many years in your life.

Dr. Menis Yousry in a talk.

There are times when you think you have overcome that painful emotion, but suddenly encountering an old image or story, you feel your heart hurt and in pain again. To get rid of the pain, to give yourself more freedom… he believes that healing can only be done through emotions and experiences.

It is a journey, a journey that helps each person change their life in a positive direction based on their own discoveries. He also gives some advice to everyone about behavior in life, family, and raising children:

What other people think of you is their business, not yours. You are not responsible for someone else's life.

Discover yourself, change past false beliefs, establish a positive outlook for each person in the present and move towards a bright future.

Many people blame themselves for not having enough time for their family, but that is not a big problem. Because the important thing is how we will use that time for our family rather than how much time we have. Even if you only have 20 minutes with your family every day.

Teach your child by showing consequences, not by threatening. Don't be afraid to say "no" to your child because it's worse if we don't say "no" to our child when they do something wrong. All you have to say is: "The consequence of your action is..." or "The consequence of what you want to do is..." And children can figure out the consequences without us having to shout.

Don’t give your child conditional love. That’s when you tell your child: “Mommy and Daddy will only buy you gifts if you’re good.” This will only create bad habits in your child. They always think that they need gifts to be obedient, and if they don’t get gifts, they don’t have to be obedient.

Let your children understand that their parents' love is unconditional, and that even if they don't receive gifts from their parents, they still have to be good children.

You come home after a stressful day at work, but your child is too busy playing and doesn’t want to eat dinner, making you even more worried and the pressure just increases. At times like this, you don’t need to get angry or scold, just say: “If you don’t eat, you’ll miss dinner” and you can throw the food away.

If your child complains of hunger, say, “I’m sorry there’s no more food.” This can happen a few times and your child will eventually learn to respect you, even when it’s a meal.

He also believes that to help someone heal past wounds, the best way is to use their own emotions instead of giving advice or skills...

Ms. Nguyen Thi Hoa, a person who attended some of Dr. Menis Yousry's courses, shared: "There are memories from the past that I thought were in the past, decades ago, and no longer affect my current life, but in fact, that is not the case.

Through practical exercises, Dr. Menis took me back to experience old grief emotions. When I was faced with the past like that, I realized that it is my choice to grieve or not to grieve.

When you can face it, you will live happier, that is the key to throwing away worries and living happily that the doctor sends to everyone".

According to VNN