Being careless in lovemaking makes your partner easily bored

Sex is not the deciding factor in a marriage, but it is very important to “keep the fire burning” for both husband and wife. Being too casual in lovemaking can gradually make your “partner” bored and easily become emotionally numb.

“Seize the day” is not enough

People often say “Good wood is better than good paint”, meaning to emphasize the quality of the content, putting the core first. However, when it comes to sex between husband and wife, the form will determine the content, and it is difficult to do the opposite.

Once married, many couples often ignore the neatness and sophistication in their love life. Illustrative photo

For example, if the psychology of both husband and wife is not good, and they are “quarreling” with each other, then that “intimate” time cannot be as fulfilling as other “sweet and delicious” times. All the emotional senses of the “involved people” will be activated or neglected in a negative way.

If everything around is pleasant, cool and fragrant, the quality of "lovemaking" will increase many times.

Tuyet Minh and her husband (District 11, Ho Chi Minh City) have a "close" schedule and a rather strange "living" space. Her husband's work is often busy in the early morning, and he is free by noon. Because her husband has a habit of taking a nap and coming home after lunch every day, Minh also takes the time to come home from work for 2 hours.

During that time, their son was in school, so they had time to cuddle. This made up for the night, when their son slept in the same room, so the parents often had to “sit still”.

However, because there is not much time at noon, it is quite busy, and after eating, the stomach is full, and vigorous "activity" easily makes people tired and have stomach aches, so Minh and her husband often "take advantage" of the opportunity to go to the living room as soon as they get home. The space here, even though there is no one in the house, is still difficult to be the same as in the bedroom.

Sex is not the deciding factor in marriage, but it is very important to "keep the fire burning" for both husband and wife. Illustration photo

As time passed, the attraction between them like when they were newlyweds had lessened, so gradually, the "intercourse" times were no different from "paying off debts". There were no more moments of seduction, no more shyness of the wife in her fragrant nightgown, nor was there a bed with warm blankets and soft mattress...

Minh and her husband often have sex in a hurry. Sometimes, this activity takes place in the kitchen or bathroom, very quickly and then… ends.

Ms. Minh regretfully recalls the time when they first got married, when they prepared everything very carefully every time they went to bed. The bedroom lights were dimmed, and the pillows and pajamas were sprayed with perfume. Whenever she finished washing her hair, he would sniff at her. Their happiness was increased many times over, from such "formal" things.

Perfect space

Once married, many couples often ignore the neatness and sophistication in their love life. Maybe it is because of the busy life that makes people lack time. Maybe it is because of the coldness of physical contact, feeling "too ordinary" after a long time together.

Being too casual in lovemaking can gradually make your partner bored and easily become emotionally numb. Therefore, it is not foolish not to prepare more carefully for the sublime moments of the two of you. Illustrative photo

And it is also possible that one of the two just wants to "get it over with", without enjoying sex as a way to enjoy married life.

Although she is nearly 40 years old, Ms. Hong Oanh (Da Lat City) makes her younger colleagues take their hats off to her. Several times a year, she often goes out to buy beautiful pajamas and fragrant perfume. She is also very diligent in taking care of her shiny hair.

She revealed that when they are together, her husband loves to stroke her hair. He likes her to have long hair to “stimulate the feeling of lovemaking”.

Everyone says she is too confident, but Ms. Oanh once confided that her husband is always "crazy about" his wife, because no one understands his personality like her in "bedtime matters". Her husband does not like mattresses that are too thick, because "he says it feels a bit floating, not strong".

He also doesn’t like to make love on the sofa, because “it’s not suitable and it hurts a lot!”. Their bed must be “standard” with a gentle perfume scent, with pillows to use whenever needed. Over time, Ms. Oanh herself has also gotten used to the cleanliness, fragrance and arrangement of their bedroom.

Sex is not the deciding factor in a marriage, but it is very important to “keep the fire burning” for both husband and wife. Being too casual in lovemaking can gradually make your “partner” bored and easily become emotionally numb.

Therefore, it is not foolish not to prepare more carefully for the sublime moments of the two of you.

According to Dantri