10 ways to teach children to be independent early

(Baonghean.vn) - Encouraging children to do things themselves, from the smallest to the largest within their capabilities, will help them become more independent and self-reliant than if you always help them unconditionally.

Stop doing everything for your children.

The first step in teaching your child independence is to show them how to do it instead of doing it for them.

As soon as your children are young, you can guide them to play with toys by themselves without their parents around (but you have to watch them), let them eat by themselves, clean up their toys after playing, choose their own clothes to wear every day or fold their own clothes,... with these tasks you need to be patient, not impatient and guide your children slowly towards certain goals.

For example, this week you teach your baby to eat by himself, then next week you teach him to choose clothes, arrange toys, get his own toothbrush and toothpaste... you need to always create a happy and comfortable mental state for your baby to have good results.

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It is not easy to satisfy children's demands.

Children are very demanding and try to find ways to achieve their goals. If parents do not consider carefully and hastily meet their children's requests, children will feel that their requests are easy to achieve and will not appreciate them. Therefore, in cases where children ask for help from their parents, parents should consider. If parents help their children, they should explain to them how to do it so that they can do it themselves next time.

Assign work to each member

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In the family, you should assign tasks to each member so that the child understands that everyone is responsible for their work and forms the habit of working and independence early. You can give your child the task of wiping the dining table, getting the bowls and plates to eat, neatly arranging the shoe rack every day, carrying small bags when going to the supermarket, etc. and remind your child to do it regularly to form good habits. When your child is used to it, every time you prepare to serve the meal, whether he is playing or doing something, he will run to help his parents wipe the dining table and get the bowls and plates right away.

Be patient with your child's mistakes.

The process of learning and practicing of children is a long learning process and mistakes are natural. Children need to learn right from wrong and parents need to stand by, persistently teach and always encourage at the right time to create motivation for children to strive. The advantage of the Japanese mother's method of teaching children is that they should not scold children when they cannot do those things by themselves. Scolding children only makes them lose confidence in their abilities. Instead, mothers should gently guide their children how to do it again.

Praise should be seen as an act of recognition for children's completion of work, even if they have only completed the most basic and simple tasks. Give positive comments after each task that children have done. Avoid using excessive praise for a simple action, which will be counterproductive. Instead, use positive encouragement, such as: Today you folded your clothes neatly, our shoe rack is neat thanks to you.

Show off your child's achievements to everyone, praise them when they start doing well and show pride when they are about to become adults to motivate them to try harder.

Don't laugh at your child's ideas, no matter how weird they are.

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Like adults, children want to be taken seriously. When they are laughed at, their instinct is to get angry, withdraw, and not share their ideas for fear of being treated the same way again. Furthermore, children see the world through a completely different lens than adults. You may be surprised at what you hear when you show your child that you listen and value his or her opinions.

Teaching children how to manage money

When your child knows the value of money, buy him a small piggy bank and teach him how to save money. Help him work towards the goal of saving enough money to buy him a bicycle, a computer or whatever he likes that you feel is appropriate. He will be motivated to save money.Not only that, before deciding to buy something, analyze for your child whether that item is really necessary. If it is not necessary, use that money to increase the savings account to do more meaningful things.

When your children know how to spend money, each month you should give them a sufficient allowance and guide them to spend reasonably, what is necessary, what is not really necessary and record all income and expenses in a small notebook. At the end of the month, parents should review the expenses with their children and analyze whether their spending was reasonable, what lessons should be learned, ... gradually the children will form appropriate and effective spending habits.

Teach children to be responsible

What do you do when your child spills milk? Immediately get a new carton of milk for your child or teach your child not to spill it again!

You should let your children do things by themselves, take responsibility for their actions! And if they make mistakes, guide them not to make those mistakes again next time! Don't cover up for your children if they do something wrong! Don't teach them the bad habit of "blaming" others for your own pride! When they are young, if you teach them to take responsibility for what they do, when they grow up, they will take responsibility for their own lives!

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Teaching children to cope with fear

Let your baby sleep alone from a young age, let your baby get used to the dark or simply let your baby watch cartoons with fierce animals... at first your baby will be scared, but you should analyze for your baby to understand that these things are very normal, your baby must be brave, strong and there is nothing to be afraid of. Gradually you will see your child become much braver and more courageous.

Let your children decide their own future.

You need to help your child understand his passion, from there you can determine the fields that your child wants to pursue. Together with your child, find out about hot jobs, need a lot of human resources as well as the requirements of those jobs to see if they are suitable for your child's abilities or not.

Don't force your child to choose a career that he doesn't like because of your own will! Let him choose and decide his future! Let him realize that life is his and he must be responsible for that life! Don't choose for your child, be the guide instead of the planner of his life!

Give your child the opportunity to experience freedom

When your child starts school, you should give him or her a separate room, creating a comfortable space for him or her so that he or she does not feel that his or her parents are always controlling him or her. Let your child decorate his or her room as he or she wishes, and guide him or her to clean and arrange the room neatly and tidily.

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Don’t keep your child at home every weekend. After a hard week of studying, let your child go out, participate in sports activities, play with friends. But remember, you need to know who your child is playing with, where he is, and tell him to come home on time.

Your child is grown up and it is time for him to learn to go to school by bike, tram or even on foot. Don't always wait for the time to pick him up, let him learn to walk on his own, sometimes it can be a bit difficult.

By giving your child opportunities to experience freedom, you help them understand the value of independence and its meaning, that life is too big, life out there is not simple at all, and that parents' arms cannot always protect and embrace their children.

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