4 questions parents should ask their children every day

A father has a unique and effective way of educating his children. Every day he spends about 10 minutes talking to his children about the following 4 issues.

1. Did anything fun happen at school?

2. What good things did you do today?

3. Did you learn anything today?

4. Is there anything you want me to help you with?

Explaining these four questions, youth psychology experts say that in essence, the father's first question is to find out his child's concept of life values, to see what his child feels is good and what is bad.

The second question implies encouragement, motivation, and increases the child's confidence. The third question determines what the child actually learns at school. The fourth question has two meanings: one is "Dad cares about you very much", the other is to imply that the child's life in the long run is up to the child to decide and take responsibility for, and the child's education is also for the child's future and life.

These are 4 questions, 4 very simple issues in daily life but contain a lot of feelings and care. Reality has proven that this is a very effective educational method.

Educational psychologists say that in educating a child, establishing a good relationship with parents is one of the most important factors. If parents build absolute trust with their children, the children will understand that their parents love them unconditionally, and that all praise or criticism from their parents is for their own good.

If in the subconscious of the child there is such trust, the relationship with the parents is really good and stable, a strong relationship, loving and supporting each other. This is the ideal model for the parent-child relationship.

However, in real life, most families do not achieve such a relationship, parents and children do not trust each other, even alienate and hate each other.

It is also necessary to add that many parents love and care for their children too much, which is shown by always giving them the best: the best food, the most beautiful clothes, even by all means giving their children the highest position in the family, at school... Doing so does not necessarily mean loving their children, but often harms them, eliminating their ability to be independent and adaptable. The relationship between children and such parents is often not as good as people think.

So how to be a good parent, have a loving, trusting and strong relationship with your children? Psychologists say that doing this is not difficult, you just need to pay attention to the following issues while raising a child:

- Absolutely do not put pressure on your children, do not use beating or scolding. Try to build an equal relationship.

- Truly love your child unconditionally, give your child spiritual love.

- Respect your child's independence.

- Choose positive educational methods, regularly encourage and motivate your child to try.

- Adjust and arrange the parent-child relationship. That is the most important thing.

- Pay attention to your child's personality.

If you really understand and follow the above, you will definitely have good children and good relationships with your children.

According to Tri Thuc Tre - NT