4 types of couples that have difficulty living together for a long time
When you and your spouse have an argument, putting your opponent down in front of your children as a way to become the winner and gloating about your achievements is a huge mistake.
You fall in love, get married and become husband and wife. After the sweet honeymoon period, there are countless new things that you have to learn to change. You and your partner have disagreements, even arguments about many aspects of life, from small to big. That is normal, as long as you both understand the rules of married life.
Here are things you need to change to avoid divorce:
One or both feel complacent
Familiarity sometimes leads to complacency. Once they have passed the stage of courtship, conquering each other, becoming husband and wife, most couples tend to stop putting effort into the relationship because they think they have what they want. One or both partners fall into boredom.
In addition, another characteristic of complacency is that both people think they are more entitled than the other. Seeing themselves as the one who earns more money, the pillar of the family… makes them feel contempt for their spouse. Stop letting this level of comfort and contempt always exist in your relationship. Saying thank you, expressing gratitude to your spouse for daily things is something that couples should do with each other.
It's good to spend time together and discuss the things you're truly grateful for about each other. Make sure your partner feels loved, appreciated, and needed.
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| Once they have passed the stage of courtship, conquering each other, and becoming husband and wife, most couples tend to stop making efforts in the relationship because they think they have gotten what they want. (Illustration photo) |
Using children as a tool to threaten your spouse
This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. When you have an argument with your spouse, you feel angry and frustrated, you put your spouse down in front of your children as a way to be the winner, to gloat about your achievements. Humiliating your spouse in front of your children is a terrible mistake.
In addition, you and your spouse should not argue in front of your children because it harms their safety, happiness and feelings. This will create negative effects on their psychology.
Stop emotional connection
Life is extremely busy and tiring, so connecting and sharing is essential. When confiding, asking and caring for each other is interrupted by dozens of jobs, complacency or many other reasons… it is a real danger.
When the sharing between husband and wife is no longer there, both will not understand each other and form barriers and conflicts. To overcome these things, husband and wife should talk to each other regularly. Even when the children have gone to sleep, husband and wife lie next to each other and whisper to each other. Discuss everything in life to clear up misunderstandings and have a common solution.
Sexual intercourse is non-existent or rare
An unhappy sex life can lead to a host of other problems in a marriage. If you and your spouse are cold, indifferent, or constantly “ignoring” each other, both of you will suffer when it comes to physical intimacy.
If you want to improve your sex life start with the following:
- Understand the importance of sex: Sex is not a casual act; it involves emotional, mental, physical and spiritual connection. Both partners need to feel loved and appreciated for their desire for bedroom activities.
- Share frankly with each other about the problems encountered, for example, what points are not satisfied, how do you want things to develop...
Avoid divorce by doing the smallest things you do every day: work together, listen to each other, fix your mistakes… Don’t compromise temporarily and not solve the problems completely. Discuss with each other to find a reasonable solution. And the last thing you need to do is remember the reason you came together, after so many difficulties to appreciate more the happiness you have.
According to Eva
