5 mistakes in teaching that keep your children from growing up

1. Do everything yourself

Many parents often do not want their children to do housework because they are afraid of breaking or damaging something. They do everything for their children, for example, many mothers do the dishes themselves, arrange luggage, and pack suitcases with their children because they are afraid that their children will forget or miss something.

If parents do it themselves, things will go faster. But if children do it themselves, they will learn more life skills and be able to handle things independently. Sometimes children may make trouble and mess things up, but it is from those experiences that they learn lessons.

2. Intervene immediately when your child is in trouble

Many parents worry so much that they intervene as soon as they see their children encountering difficulties in life. For example, if their children complain about difficult homework, their parents rush to help them. Or if their children accidentally fall, their parents rush in, exclaim, and help them up.

If you want your children to grow up, you need to teach them how to deal with difficult emotions like disappointment and frustration. Children also need opportunities to practice problem-solving skills. If the homework is difficult, let them think for themselves to find a solution. If they fall, let them stand up and dust themselves off.

Rushing to the rescue as soon as a child encounters difficulty can prevent them from learning how to overcome challenges on their own.

3. Manage all your child's activities

Seeing your child doing things their own way can make parents nervous because they are afraid of doing things wrong. Many parents want to keep things on track so they monitor all of their child’s activities and require them to report everything they have done.

For example, if a child wants to wear a certain outfit to go out with friends, the parents must also manage and give their opinion. This thinking is very harmful, making the child reliant on adults. Children need to be given the opportunity by their parents to behave responsibly with their own actions.

4. Do not let children participate in age-appropriate activities.

There are many children, although grown up, parents still dare not leave them home alone, or let them cross the street by themselves. Many parents are worried, afraid that their children will encounter some risk, or get hurt. They do not realize that their children are old enough to participate in, experience some social activities, daily life activities.

Children sometimes make mistakes and get hurt, but if the consequences are acceptable, parents should let them experience them. Suffering the natural consequences of their own mistakes will help children grow up, become stronger, and also make better choices.

5. Set rigid rules

Some parents maintain rigid rules in the house, even though they are not really necessary. For example, children must go to bed at 1:00 pm or dinner must be eaten on time, without delay. These rules are of course made for the good of the children, but sometimes the rules are too rigid and arbitrary can be harmful to them.

Rules are good, but children need to understand that there will be exceptions. For example, your child is not allowed to interrupt, but if something goes wrong, like a fire in the house, he or she needs to step in and let you know.

Instead of just giving rigid rules, parents should teach flexible thinking, ready to bend the rules if necessary.