9 things parents should do to help children be more resilient in the new year

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Instead of controlling, parents should step back a bit, support children when needed, teach them to encourage themselves and empathize with them.

There is a common belief among parents that failure builds resilience. But when children fail over and over again and are not given the support to keep trying, all they learn is that they fail. To help your child become resilient, you can follow these tips from experts atMotherly.

1. Stop controlling and start supporting

As a parent, you need to support your child in developing skills. Doing everything for your child means you are robbing them of the opportunity to become competent. Instead, gradually let go of the need to control and start supporting and working with your child when needed to help them build confidence.

2. Remember that perfection is not the goal

Don't force your child to be perfect, but look at their weaknesses and help them improve. Intervening and forcing your child to be perfect will undermine their self-confidence.

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3. Take a step back and let your child do something for themselves from a young age.

You don’t always have to stand by your child to help, sometimes you have to take a step back. Worrying about your child when they climb on something on the playground may make you feel better and impress other parents with your thoughtfulness, but it won’t help your child. In fact, you’re limiting them.

Instead, watch your child try to stay safe, stand behind them and smile proudly. When they have a hard time but you feel they can overcome it, encourage them with words like "I know you can do it". If they accidentally fall, run to them and help them up so they still feel loved and cared for.

4. Don't actively push your child closer to failure.

Discouraging your child from taking on a challenge prevents them from learning important lessons. But when children see their parents standing by and letting them fail, they can feel unloved. So if the challenge is clearly too much for your child, think twice.

5. Encourage and teach children to encourage themselves

Encouraging your child will help them feel more positive and motivated, which will help them to be more self-motivated. You can also give your child some mantras to remind themselves when they are having difficulties, such as: "Practice makes perfect" and "If you don't succeed, try again" or "I think I can, I can".

6. Be descriptive and empathetic rather than judgmental.

You often give praise like “Good job” when evaluating your child’s performance. In fact, it doesn’t give your child much information about what they did well or why you think it was good. So, tailor your praise to help your child identify their strengths and weaknesses to improve and become better, and help them self-evaluate.

In addition, you should also show empathy for what your child is feeling. Combining that empathy with words of encouragement will help them become more resilient to overcome challenges.

7. Focus on effort, not results

Giving praise to children is necessary. However, instead of praising them as "so good" or "so smart", you should give positive feedback on their diligence and perseverance. Those are the things children can control and develop.

In particular, you need to understand that it’s not about the product. You certainly don’t want your child to rest on their laurels at age 6 or 16. Your goal is to keep them trying, practicing, improving, and helping them understand that hard work will get them anywhere.

8. Don't make your child more frustrated

There is no benefit in setting up your child for further frustration or negative experiences. In fact, they will see your actions as evidence of a lack of interest. So, don't do anything to add to their frustration, just let the challenges run their course.

9. Affirm your child's abilities

Eventually, children will grow up and live their lives without their parents. So, don’t worry too much and control your children all the time they are young. On the contrary, create conditions and opportunities for your children to see their abilities, thereby gaining more confidence and resilience in the future.

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