How to teach children without yelling
To prevent children from having physical and mental problems due to being scolded, parents can apply four ways, as suggested by VerywellFamily.
Set clear rules
Parents will have to scold less if they have set clear family rules about ethics, behavior... for their children. Print a written rule and post it in prominent places in the house such as the refrigerator, dining table. Whenever children make mistakes, parents do not need to nag or talk much, but just follow the established rules to punish them.
Do not yell or criticize your children because this will only make them frustrated and unable to correct their bad behavior. And in many cases, the more parents yell, the more defiant their children become.
Warning of the consequences of committing a mistake
Parents should warn their children about the consequences and punishments they will receive if they make a mistake. Punishments such as taking away privileges (no TV, no comic books...) or sitting quietly to reflect on their actions will help your child learn a lot.
For example, if your child is lazy and refuses to do his homework, you don't need to yell, scream, or even spank him. Instead, warn him: "If you don't do your homework, you won't be able to watch TV tonight." Then your child will consider it and choose to do his homework because he doesn't want to lose his TV privilege.
Of course, parents should consider choosing the most appropriate consequence. For example, if your child likes ice cream, warn them that they will not get ice cream if they do not do their homework. Choose the privilege that is taken away based on their interests so they learn to fear and change.
Reward if your child does well
In addition to punishments, parents also need to give praise and rewards if their children behave well and follow the rules. "Mom and Dad are very happy that you did your chores and appreciate it", a compliment will help your child feel happy, proud of himself and have more motivation to behave properly.
Take time each day to encourage your child to try to behave well and perhaps create a reward system. For example, every time your child does something well, they will receive a star, and when they have five stars, they will receive a gift.
Yelling may not necessarily change a child's behavior, but praise always helps quickly.
Reconsider the reasons for yelling at your child.
If parents often yell at their children, consider why they do so. Many times, children only make small mistakes but parents yell at them because they are stressed and want to release their emotions. In this case, parents need to learn to control their anger and wait until they calm down before disciplining their children. Some measures that can help are taking 3-5 deep breaths, resting, listening to music, exercising...
If parents yell at their children because they ignore their words, try other measures to attract their children's attention, such as: removing distractions, asking them to repeat what parents say or giving warnings...
