The French way of "leisurely" raising children

Almost every mother has to wake up in the middle of the night to comfort her crying baby, but French women are different. When their baby cries, they do not rush to intervene immediately, but let the baby "soothe itself" and then stop and go back to sleep.

After a long time observing the way French mothers raise their children, Pamela Druckerman (an American woman living in France, with 3 children) was startled.

She recounted these firsthand accounts in a fascinating book titled "French children don't throw food."

Pamela Druckerman recounted that, on vacation with her family, when she entered a restaurant, she observed that French children behaved very politely. They sat quietly at the table and ate their own meals, they did not make a mess of food and ate everything, including the vegetables.

Meanwhile, her 18-month-old baby Bean was running around and spilling food. And while she struggled to keep up with her naughty child, French parents seemed to have no trouble keeping up with their children.

Not only that, French children sleep well at night and do not cry. They do not quarrel or cause public disorder, nor do they lose their appetite or pick fights when going to bed. This is very different from American or British children. From being surprised, Pamela decided to spend time to find out the truth about the French way of raising children.

After interviewing dozens of French mothers, sociologists and doctors, Pamela realized that in fact, French parenting seems to be stricter than American and British, the Telegraph reported.. With their children, they emphasize discipline or spanking rather than gentle persuasion or encouragement. However, they are not too harsh and always have faith in their children's abilities.

British children never sit still, nor are they taught to respect others, whereas most French parents take these things very seriously, and children can even be punished if they break them.

"When I took my children to nursery, it was like being in a pub. While French women sat calmly sipping coffee in the school yard, English mothers had to run around chasing their children," Pamela describes her time living in Paris:

Pamela said that she and most British women felt that having a baby was a torture, because from then on the mother would no longer have enough time to take care of herself. But French women were less worried because they did not seem to force themselves to do everything according to the child's wishes. They also did not breastfeed because they were afraid of their breasts becoming ugly. And just a week after giving birth, the mother regained her slim figure as before.

Observing from the moment a French child was born, Pamela continued to write: "When I heard about babies sleeping for 6 weeks, I thought French parents were terrible, sometimes even letting their babies cry for hours. But it was not like I thought, instead of rushing to hug their babies to comfort them, French mothers let them be for a while to give their babies a chance to 'soothe' and stop. At first I thought the baby was being neglected, but in fact their parents wanted their babies to learn sleeping skills from an early age, this also applies to their eating habits."

According to VnExpress.net