Education from family

Family educationalmost attached to the whole life and each person plays the role of a student and then becomes a teacher. Therefore, the maturity of a person always has an important role of family education. But where is family education in today's life?

Obviously, in the current context, family education has issues that need to be seriously considered. Especially in training, forming and developing important, basic abilities of young children so that children can form and develop their core qualities and abilities and be more stable when leaving the family.

5 criteria of behavior in the family. Illustration: Document

In the past, perhaps the elders were also very strict in educating their children. Especially regarding self-esteem.

In Nghe An, there is a teacher named Cao The Lu who is very interested in teaching children about self-respect and he shows that in many of his articles. First of all, to form self-respect,must teach childrenknow shame. You must know shame when you are inferior to your friends, when you are cowardly, when you are wrong. If you do not know shame, you are shameless and will not understand, have no self-respect. Adults in the family must take responsibility for children not knowing shame because “a fair number of adults do not know shame, lack exemplary behavior…”.

Cao The Lu also believes that "teaching self-respect, necessary self-love, and moderate self-esteem to the young generation is to stabilize and develop society, and build the future of the country". Throughout his life of education, he taught his students like that, and teaching his children in the family was even stricter in this matter.

Veteran teacher Nguyen Quang Tuyen, when talking about the current way of educating children in families, also commented that parents are too lenient with their children, especially in terms of morality and behavior. At the age of 90, he still has not forgotten the lesson from decades ago. He recalled that before the August Revolution in 1945, he was a child and lived with his grandfather in the countryside. His grandfather was very strict about etiquette. Just a small mistake could result in a beating. One time, during a storm, the cassava tree next door had branches that spread over his garden, so the fruit fell. He went out in the rain to pick it up and accidentally ate a few fruits, and was beaten by his grandfather. After that, his grandfather called him back and made him bring the picked fruits back to the neighbor's house, explaining that even though the tree shaded his garden, they had planted them, so the fruits belonged to them. When he returned home, his grandfather clearly explained that even if he did not steal, even if he picked it without the consent of the grower, it was still an act of stealing and stealing the fruits of someone else's labor. That was self-respect. People with self-respect do not steal or depend on the fruits of someone else's labor...

In modern life, people are busy with making a living, so they pay little attention to teaching their children through behavior to form self-respect. There is nothing more difficult than teaching others self-respect because the teacher must first have self-respect. Parents are busy working. At work, there are often behaviors that are not very transparent or honest, so they pay little attention to such things with their children. Parents themselves have even influenced their children's personalities through their daily behaviors. A child who often witnesses others giving gifts and envelopes to their parents will think differently about behavior and have different behaviors.

An old teacher was filled with anxiety when his eldest grandson complained to him that he was very sad because this year his lucky money was less than last year. From then on, he told in detail the stories of the uncles and aunts who came to give gifts and envelopes to his parents on the occasion of Tet. Then he told his father that he had to give more gifts to his teacher than last year because his grades were worse last semester... Even Professor of Sociology To Duy Hop had to exclaim that parents are spoiling and degrading their children by encouraging bad habits of society such as bribery, selling grades, buying positions... It infects children's heads with selfish thinking and makes them lose the self-respect they should have.

Where is family education in the formation of children today, when almost all issues related to education are "pushed" to the school? It is necessary to see that there are many important values ​​in the maturity of children that can only be formed in the family education environment. Therefore, there needs to be orientations to revive and revive family education values ​​to create an environment for children to develop more harmoniously and sustainably.