"A moment of patience can prevent nine problems."

(Baonghean) - It's unclear when the idiom "To endure is humiliating, to yield is to lose" appeared in life, but it's now considered a motto by many, especially young people. Perhaps the increasing pressure of competition in work and business led people to create this saying to encourage each other to strive for success. But what are the negative consequences of not knowing how to yield and only focusing on winning and losing at any cost?

To answer that question, let me recount a recent incident at a wedding in a certain district earlier this March. The two men knew each other, one 11 years older than the other. During the meal, the older man offered the younger man a drink, but when he refused, he struck him in the face. The younger man quickly ran home, grabbed a fruit knife, and returned to "settle the matter." The incident only ended when others at the wedding intervened, and the older man collapsed and later died in the hospital... The incident itself seemed insignificant, but the ending was heartbreaking. The cause of this cruel act likely stemmed from a lack of patience when personal pride was deeply wounded. The man who offered the drink and struck the younger man probably felt humiliated, thinking he had been disrespected by the "youngster," and that enduring it would be too humiliating, so he had to "teach him a lesson in manners."

Young people who are unexpectedly attacked in front of a crowd are equally resentful; they should have yielded because they were younger, but yielding meant losing, being called cowardly and incompetent, so their anger flared up, causing them to lose all reason, leading to the act of "stabbing a white knife into a red knife and pulling it out." As a result, one person loses their life, and the other goes to prison. The one who died is one thing, but the one who survived will surely deeply regret taking another's life in a moment of uncontrolled rage, losing their youth and their entire life in prison; they may not have the courage to rebuild their lives, and their future is practically over. Perhaps, at this moment, the unwilling killer would be willing to accept defeat and humiliation a hundred times over, as long as they don't repeat that horrific outcome. So, is forbearance still humiliating, and yielding still a defeat?

Of course, excessive forbearance leads to humiliation. Excessive yielding leads to loss. Therefore, the most important thing is to know when and in what situations yielding is necessary, and when resolutely refusing. Don't always be quick to say, "To yield is humiliating, to yield is defeat." Because since ancient times, the Vietnamese have had the saying, "One act of forbearance brings nine blessings." Yielding might mean a small loss, but it will certainly bring something very precious: peace and well-being.

Confidant