"Patience is the key to healing"

(Baonghean) - I don't know since when the idiom "To endure is humiliating, to yield is to lose" has appeared in life and is considered by many people, especially young people, as a motto in life in the present time. Perhaps it is because the pressure of competition in work and business is increasing, so people have created such a catchphrase to encourage each other to compete and rise up. But what will be the result of not knowing how to yield but only knowing how to compete and win in anything and at any cost?

To answer that question, let me cite a story that happened at a wedding in a certain district in early March. Both people knew each other, one was 11 years older than the other. While eating, the older person invited the younger person to drink, but when he refused, he immediately swung his arm and hit the younger person in the face. The younger person quickly ran home to get a fruit knife to "talk". The story only stopped when people present at the wedding intervened and the older person collapsed, and later died in the hospital... It was not a big deal, but the ending was very heartbreaking. The cause of that cruel action, perhaps stemmed from a lack of patience when personal pride was hurt. The person who invited the drink and hit the younger person was probably angry because he thought that the "younger guy" looked down on him, and if he held back, it would be too humiliating, so he had to "teach him a lesson to know what courtesy is".

The young man who was beaten in front of a crowd for no reason was also indignant; he should have given in because he was younger, but giving in meant losing, meant being looked down upon, looked down upon, so his anger flared up to the point of losing all reason, leading to the action of “stabbing a white knife into a red knife and pulling it out”. Then, one lost his life, another went to jail. The one who died was nothing to say, the one who was still alive would surely be extremely remorseful for taking another person’s life in just one minute of not being able to control himself, losing his youth and his entire life in prison; he didn’t know if he would have enough courage to start his life over again, and the future was almost over. Perhaps, at this moment, the reluctant murderer was willing to accept defeat and humiliation up to a hundred times as long as he didn’t repeat that horrible ending. So, is forbearance humiliating, is giving in also a defeat?

Of course, being too patient will be humiliating. Being too yielding will be a real loss. Therefore, the most important thing is to know when and what to yield to and when to be resolute. Don’t always “swing your bow” with the catchphrase “To be patient is humiliating, to yield is to lose”. Because since ancient times, Vietnamese people have had the saying “One patience, nine peace”. Being tolerant may result in a little loss, but will certainly gain something very precious: peace.

Confidant