If you have to choose, choose happiness.

On the first day of the Content Creation class, as a small challenge to see how creative the students were, the teacher gave us the following topic:

You love me A (According to the Chinese way of calling in Vietnam, "che" means sister, currently being used very popularly on social networks), super poor regime.

I love you too.

Che B is a tycoon, loves you very much.

You are forced to get married.

Who do you “go up” with?

Along with that is the requirement: OPTIMAL SOLUTIONS AND… CREATIVE!

After 5 minutes of thinking, the students below began to give their answers:

1. Marrying A

2. Marrying Che B

3. Married B then broke up, took the money to marry A

If it were you, who would you marry?

You may not need to answer this question. Because in fact, I cite this example not to know your answer, but to tell you that: Our life always has many choices. In fact, those are not even the last 3 answers. There is another answer that I think can be applied in this case, which is not to "go up" with anyone!

Why not?

You can absolutely marry A because of love; marry B because B has a lot of money; marry B, break up, take the money to marry A; or even not marry anyone at all. I just want to ask you, and this time I really want to hear your answer: Does marrying A or marrying B, or even choosing to marry B, break up, then take the money to marry A, make you happy?

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I don't know if you've seen the movie.And I will come, a Korean film, a remake of the filmBe with youJapanese, based on the novelI will come with the rainby writer Takuji Ichikawa? Until now, when I talk about the movie, my heart still flutters with the pure and warm emotions that the movie brings.

When the first shower of summer falls, by some miracle, Soo-ah returns to her husband and beloved son. While Woo-jin is surprised, little Ji-ho is filled with joy. That is because he still believes in miracles in life, believes in the promise of his mother that "mother will return from the Cloud Land after the first rain of summer".

With what is happening in the movie, it seems that the audience no longer cares or questions further, to see if the reason for Soo-ah's return is reasonable or not. The audience's mind, including mine, is completely devoted to the kindness that is happening before their eyes. When Soo-ah returns, she has almost lost all memories of her past life, even forgetting her two relatives, Woo-jin and Ji-ho. Woo-jin and his son take her home. While Ji-ho enjoys the moments with her mother comfortably and naturally, Woo-jin has a bit more "hard work" when he has to try to help her "fall in love again".

Returning home, Soo-ah guides her little son in cooking, drying clothes, personal hygiene, cleaning the house... And then there is the moment Woo-jin carries mother and son on his shoulders or the moment the three of them sit in front of the TV, eating dinner together... All those images make the viewer's heart flutter. Aren't they precious when they are something that every person and every family is constantly searching for and building?!

What can we say about this choice of Soo-ah?

Marrying a noble husband and enjoying a royal life is a completely possible prospect for a girl like Soo-ah. With her family background, Soo-ah can choose to graduate from university in Seoul, looking for good opportunities to develop and assert herself. But if that comes true, will Soo-ah be happy? Because in fact, not only in movies but also in real life, there are many people who live in luxury but have never known the taste of happiness. People still say that "the rich also cry" for that reason.

Viewers have not seen Soo-ah make that choice since she met Woo-jin. She followed her heart, even dropping out of college despite her parents' strong objections. Soo-ah married Woo-jin, gave birth to a smart, emotional son, Ji-ho. And then followed the dreamy days that the audience saw. So, even when she traveled 8 years into the future and knew she would leave at the age of 32, she still did not regret her choice: "If I hadn't come to you, I would have met and married another man. But, would I have been happy then? And I have made my own choice."

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In a recent talk on the topic of “Writing” held in Ho Chi Minh City, there was a rare gathering of three famous contemporary writers, Thuan, Nguyen Thuy Hang and Tran Tien Cao Dang. Among the three speakers, two were married, writer Thuan and writer Tran Tien Cao Dang; only poet and painter Nguyen Thuy Hang chose a free life. Therefore, an audience member asked poet Nguyen Thuy Hang: Is this a trade-off for creativity, for writing?

Poet Nguyen Thuy Hang said that choosing a single and free life, like she was forced to be like that, is human nature. And especially, after participating in creative activities, gradually as her thinking matured, she felt that her best job was to write. “And because I can’t take on too many jobs like normal people. It’s not that being married is something special. And it’s not that artists are like that, even normal people have the right to choose that freedom,” Nguyen Thuy Hang added.

Indeed, not only those who work in the field of artistic creation have the “right” to choose a life of freedom. That is also the “destination” of many ordinary people in today’s society. Some people choose to be single mothers. Some people, instead of getting married to please their families, choose to live a single life. Many people leave the city to go to the forest to plant trees, raise chickens…

Every choice has its price. This is not wrong at all. It's just that once that choice makes you happy, right or wrong no longer has any meaning. Sometimes, what is right in your eyes is wrong in the eyes of others; and vice versa. So, if you know that choice will make you happy, just believe in your choice, okay?