The third person is not scary, just afraid that we no longer need each other!

Now she thought of the saying: "The third person is not scary, the scariest thing is that the people involved no longer need each other." - that's right.

She graduated with a good degree, quickly found a job at a big company and married him after 4 years of dating while she was still in school. During that happy time, she thought their marriage was fate, a match made in heaven.

But soon after the birth of her son, she discovered that her husband had a mistress. That was the time when she suffered the most. She tormented herself, she was in pain, she struggled. She questioned, scolded and criticized him all night but he remained silent and said nothing.

It was only when she threatened to go to his office to "report" her husband's lover that she received the most bitter words from him. He said: "I think you don't love me anymore, why did you do that?", "I forbid you to touch her",... Then again, the words he said made her no longer feel that he was the person she used to love: "Stay away from me, the further the better".

She recalled that after the baby was born, they no longer had romantic moments. Before, when she cried, he was flustered and worried, he was afraid she would be sad so he tried to comfort her in all kinds of ways. But now, even if she cried for an hour, he would still be silent. He even thought she was a tearful, sentimental person.

He used to wish to hear her voice so passionately, now he was irritated: “You talk too much”. When her car ran out of gas and was out of maintenance, he let her go get it replaced… He had changed.

He changed in a scary way. And she felt confused, not knowing what to do… Perhaps, it was because of that coldness, that distance that created the opportunity for her - the third person to appear and interfere in her marriage.

When she asked why, he remained silent. A terrifying silence. His expression at that time haunted her, drilled into her head and tormented her every night. She wondered, did he still love her? Did he have another woman? Why didn't he tell her so they could break up and save her the pain?

Thousands of questions made her heart feel like it was about to explode. She looked at her child, she didn't dare to break up with him, but she was afraid if she continued, how much longer would she be able to endure? She was tired, she lost her direction. If she broke up, she was afraid she wouldn't have enough courage, and if she continued, she would be too tired.

For her, the days after discovering that he had a third person were the darkest times. Until the day she decided to stop everything, she read a letter from her husband with words that made her cry. Perhaps the situation until today was partly because she had "starved" her own marriage.

He wrote:

“After marriage, everything seemed to have changed. You were no longer yourself. You were no longer the lovely girl you used to be. You were always irritable, you talked so much that I couldn’t understand, couldn’t remember what you said.

Honey! Although love has its ups and downs, I think that if I try alone, it won't be enough. I've tried to give you and our child the best life, but have you ever understood me?

Every day is the same, you only talk about salary and bonus. You only complain about your mother-in-law being messy, about her not taking good care of her grandchildren. Have you ever understood your mother, understood me standing between two women. As a wife, you should understand, right? How many times have I gently told you?

As for you, after the day we lived together, you even forgot to take care of your beauty. You were so lazy to eat that no one wanted to compete with your skinny body. I advised you to just leave it alone. I thought you didn't love yourself, couldn't take care of yourself, how could you take care of me and the child?

You always control your husband everywhere, you only ask 'Where are you?', 'What time will you be home?', but you don't know how to ask 'Are you tired?', 'How was your work today?'... I really crave your care and comfort.

Furthermore, in our relationship, you have made me lose interest many times. Instead of pleasing me, understanding me and trying to do our best together, you are always grumpy. Is that all you can do? You don't understand me at all, you are demanding, you force me to "recite lessons" just for show, have you ever understood my feelings...

I just want a wife who can crawl into my arms and act spoiled. You have the right to live truthfully. To be honest, you have the right to make intelligent demands, not just for show. That's it, I'm quiet and taciturn because you're not you anymore. You don't listen to me, you only know how to be grumpy and irritable with me. You think I'm made of wood and stone, don't you? You probably don't need me anymore.

I go to work only for this family, for you, for our children. I strive for you and our children. I am dry, I am grumpy so I need someone who understands and listens to me... Perhaps, when I said these things, our relationship became very bad, right?

After reading his letter, she felt her heart ache. At the end of the letter, he clearly stated that they would temporarily be apart for a month so that they could both calm down. When he left, she should have tried to hold him back, but her ego was too big.

This afternoon, seeing him in the rain, she still didn't have the courage to hold his hand. She didn't have the courage to say that she still loved him and accept to erase all distance so that the two of them could return to the way they were. She was confused, she was bewildered...

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