Musician Duc Huy and his wife 44 years younger: Eat whatever is available, live 'poor but happy'

We preserve as if there is no vaccine yet

- How are you? How have you been these days?

I am still healthy. Our family had a chance to purify both mind and body. We researched body detox together, eating more vegetables and less meat. Every day, the whole family went to bed early, woke up early, practiced yoga and meditated at home.

My husband and I, like everyone else, stay at home and practice our skills until they are perfect, waiting for the day to use them!PandemicIt may only happen once in a lifetime, if we realize the meaning to capture it, it is precious. We are cherishing the moment our family is together.

- For those who live in a hurry, the pandemic is an opportunity for them to slow down and stop. But you have already stopped, what will the transition be like?

It is confirmation that the path I have chosen is the right one. We often expect instant results in everything we do, but cultivating our mind and character is not like that. You cannot pray to God and Buddha to give you patience instantly, right?

So if you are going the wrong way and you are not happy, you just change the road. If you want to stop, you have to slow down first. Slowing down is difficult because we always believe that happiness is ahead. We are currently pausing because of Directive 16 but not everyone can maintain this pace of life after the pandemic is over.

Through the pandemics over the past two years, I've seen that we've always been prepared to rush out there and rush back when the pandemic is about to be over.

My whole family still applied for vaccination.vaccinesbut agreed that we do not put our trust in the vaccine but in the awareness of protecting ourselves and the community. We consider that there is no vaccine yet, do not fear or rely on others, try at all costs to get vaccinated and always have the highest awareness of protecting ourselves.

We need to listen to our body and its balance. When we are healthy both physically and mentally, it is difficult for any disease to invade us. On the contrary, if the body is out of balance, anything can kill us, not even the Corona virus.

Eat whatever is available, live "poor but happy"

- Is your family okay?

We still love each other like that. My wife and I are very close because she shares my views on the epidemic. We are not afraid, so with or without the epidemic, we are still happy every day. Every day, we wake up and smile at the new day, if we don't go out, we happily stay at home. There is no anger or resentment about life or the epidemic.

Isn't Vietnam still very lucky, poor people, poor country but loved by God? No place in the world is perfect, we inherently have a perfect position right here if we don't expect, don't "stand on this mountain looking at that mountain". If we know how to take joy in our hearts to remind ourselves every day, we will be fine.

Duc Huy's family is still the same, close-knit and happy.

- How is the cooking and living in your house?

There were some minor inconveniences. Thu did all the shopping and cooking. Thu, like everyone else, wore all kinds of protective gear when going out, but what was important was her attitude. Thu was content with standing in long lines at the supermarket, content that there were many things she needed that had been bought out.

I also have friends from far away who send me fish and agricultural products. I often ask for a little more to share with my friends. This is a good opportunity for us to connect in reality, to share sincerely instead of the "all talk but no action" style like before.

We learned to be completely silent during every meal so that we could concentrate on enjoying the food. People are used to talking while eating, especially about other people, so no matter how delicious the food is, it is impossible to enjoy it.

I still wash dishes with a smile and joy. I have precious water, soap and standing on my feet to wash dishes. That alone is joy.

- Is your family financially deficient?

A little. I still have a pension from my years as a musician in the US. It’s not much, but it helps a little. I’ve been receiving it since I turned 65.

- I heard, Ms. Thu is planning to sell online?

We agreed to say no to this, spending time taking care of the family was more valuable. Thu getting involved in business would cause her to worry, affecting her thinking, and from there, through her words and actions, affecting those around her. So, Thu just spent time taking care of the family. We ate as much as we had. My family had never spent money on luxuries or superficial things. It was a poor but happy life!(laugh)

- Any happy memories between you, your wife and children?

My daughter and I have become real friends. Whatever she plays, I play too. I memorize my characters, and when I play with my daughter, I have to concentrate.

Thu is practicing cooking many new dishes, crazy delicious...

My son is in Lam Dong. Initially, he went out with friends, planning to stay for 1-2 weeks, but because of the pandemic, he has been stuck for 2 months now. I talk to him every day, he has friends there so it's okay. Our whole family accepts everything that happened, considers it normal. I still miss him and wait every day for the opportunity to bring him home.

It seems that when things are always naturally happy without effort, the human brain does not pay attention to record it. Because we have already lived and enjoyed in that moment.

My wife and I don't expect anything so we don't get bored with each other.

- I always wonder why people during the pandemic tend to reveal their bad side on social media. Is it the depression and misery that makes us cruel to each other?

I have four principles: If bad thoughts have not yet arisen, do not let them arise. If bad thoughts have already arisen, do not let them continue. If good thoughts have not yet arisen, make them arise. If good thoughts have already arisen, nurture them.

In my opinion, any ideology that promotes ego and self-glorification is a bad ideology. Any ideology that focuses on the community, wants to help others, and preserve the environment is a good ideology. With these four things in mind, I can just walk with ease.

I don’t want to show my ego anymore. To be honest with you, putting this conversation in the newspaper is a show of ego. But I have become a public figure. I have to consider it as my practice has not reached the right level, I need to practice more…

Musician Duc Huy and his wife never get bored of each other.

- They say that peace and quiet will gradually kill love. What if you two get bored of each other because... it's too peaceful?

I never thought about this. Every day, we just stick together more, where do we find time to get bored with each other? In my opinion, the boredom you mentioned only appears when we have new desires. For example, I desire someone other than Thu and vice versa.

Look for answers sometimes:What do I want? What am I doing?If you look around you and see that this is not right, that is not good, and you have to take out a piece of paper to write down your wishes to change everything, you will be tired for a long time.

I often wonder and find no answer, which means I don't want anything anymore. So I rarely get bored or upset about what I have.