Quynh Chi: 'Women will be at a disadvantage if they don't love again after divorce'

Once desperate after her first broken marriage, the female MC said she now thinks more openly, lives happily and focuses on making money to have the conditions to regain custody of her child.

- After announcing the divorce, your work seems to be more favorable. What do you think?

- I think everything has its fate. For example, when I was in a deadlock over a custody dispute with my husband, director Vu Ngoc Phuong gave me the script for Drawing a Path for Love to Run and said: "There is a role suitable for you." With Phuong's gentle and thoughtful way of speaking, it is hard for anyone to refuse.

After the film was finished, I received many invitations to be an MC. But honestly, that was still not enough to cover the basic needs of life, let alone to get rich or change my life. I have many jobs parallel to art to earn money because I need a stable source of income. To be accepted by the public, I also need to have a certain investment in terms of image and products. The audience is now smart and increasingly demanding. Competition in the profession is increasingly fierce.

Quynh Chi said she is not the type of woman who is dependent on love.

- Many women after a breakup often have the mentality of "birds afraid of curved branches". What about you?

- It's true that there was a time when I fell into a state of despair and thought that I would never love anyone again. But when everything calmed down, I realized that it was a very self-deprecating and selfish thought. Why should I be haunted by the past when I'm still young, with so much time to start over? If I don't love anyone anymore, I'll be the only one who suffers, not anyone else.

I know many Vietnamese women often stay single to raise their children because they are afraid that the next person will not love their children. The problem here is that you also have the right to love and be happy. Life without love is boring and... gets old very quickly. Thinking like that, I opened my heart. But not to an official relationship yet. After "a marriage", I also do not want to make a hasty decision because I am afraid of making mistakes. I just let the feelings develop naturally until they are mature enough.

- What do you think you got most from your first marriage?

- It's a child and a lot of maturity. Before getting married, I simply thought that my husband would replace my parents to worry and take care of me and my children. In the "romance" style of today, it's: "You just have to love me, I'll take care of the world." Later, I thought differently. If you want to achieve something, you have to work to make it. The wealth I've made now isn't as much as a corner of my ex-husband's family, but it makes me confident that at least I won't starve to death without someone. Maybe that's why my friends say I'm more mature and resilient these days.

In modern times, many people are no longer strict with a single mother. But I would advise young girls not to get married early and grow up in a way they do not want. Love and enjoy your youth before deciding to get married and have children. The feeling of tearing up the marriage certificate and replacing it with a divorce certificate is terribly haunting.

- How is your relationship with your son now?

- I still haven't seen my child - the thing that hurts me the most. During this time, I've limited my show commitments, one is because I want to be selective about the programs I appear in, and two is because I'm focusing on regaining custody of my child before the law. Many people think I want to give up my child because I'm afraid of being entangled or because my financial situation doesn't allow it. Actually, my life now may not be too rich, but I'm confident that I can raise my child well. Out there, there are so many single mothers who work hard, earn less than me, and still work hard to raise their children properly. So why can't I?

The female MC feels older than her peers.

- Your first role received positive reviews from the audience. How do you feel?

- At first, I told the director that I didn't like the role of Chi very much. I didn't like the type of girl who was too dependent on love. Who would have thought that she would be left hanging so many times and still love blindly like that? When creating the character, I was even more "frustrated" because the director made me cut my hair short, while I really wanted to keep my long hair. As soon as the movie finished, I went to get hair extensions.

During the filming process with peers like Jun Vu, Be Tran, Kim Nha, I had a hard time finding harmony. They were very cute and lovely but their thinking was all pink, while I was much older than my age. At first, I felt quite awkward when learning to eat, sleep, play and think like them. But gradually, their innocence pulled me out of the complexities and sadness of love at that time. After filming, I felt much younger and fresher. It is true that women should work even if they earn little money.

- In real life, how would you react if your lover was "playing with two hands" like in the movies?

- I would have given up a long time ago and not held on like Chi. Even before I got married, I have worshipped loyalty. I think I can overlook any bad points in a man for love, except for his promiscuity. No matter how many good points he has, I don't like him. I don't understand why a strong, independent girl like Chi is so weak and dependent when in love.

Quynh Chi's kissing scene in the movie is quite natural.

- First time acting in a movie, how do you feel about playing a supporting role?

- For me, a main or supporting role is not as important as the impression I make on it. My role as Chi is about the small stumbles in youth, quite gentle compared to what I have experienced. When studying the script, I found the story of this character quite simple and had many unreasonable points. I frankly asked Mr. Phuong to work with me to refine it until we were both satisfied. Finally, when the film was released, everyone said the director favored my role, but only we knew why (laughs).

I think actors should not put themselves in a passive position, meaning that they must follow whatever the director says or whatever the script says. If your role is weak, they will be ready to cut it out when editing because clearly keeping you or not will not affect the flow of the film. In life or love, women should take the initiative to decide what they will do.

- What plans do you have for your next film project?

- At first, I just thought I was acting in a movie to test myself and not to become a professional actor. But receiving compliments and encouragement from everyone for my role, my love for cinema grew without me realizing it. Maybe I will find a more unique and edgy role if I act in another movie.

According to VNE