I am crazy about her!

My parents insisted that I was under a spell to fall in love with someone like that. I also didn’t understand myself when I fell in love with someone 8 years older than me.

At 27 years old, I have many girls chasing me. I don't exaggerate about myself, but maybe because of my good looks and humorous way of speaking, many girls like me. From my school days to my working days, I was often paired with many people. There were also people I tried to get to know and date to see how it went, but in the end, after only a few months, they were not compatible and stopped. No one expected that I would fall in love with a girl who was ten years older than me.

My female colleagues in the office said I was too picky, so I still haven't found my soulmate. Actually, I'm not picky. I don't want to rush into love. At this age, I want to find someone I truly love and get married, I'm no longer interested in casual love. Maybe my fate hasn't come yet, so I haven't found anyone suitable yet!

Then I met her, a girl 8 years older than me. This relationship was beyond my imagination. When we met, I knew she was older than me, and we called each other sister and brother as usual. Because we were assigned to work together in a group and often had to go to work alone together, we interacted more. Gradually, I developed feelings for her without realizing it.

Then I met her, a girl 8 years older than me (illustrative photo)

She is a late bloomer, not the type of person who is single but lives a very individual and easy-going life. Because she has not met her true love yet, she does not care about marriage and children. Even though she is at an age where her friends have already settled down, she is still calm as if nothing happened. Her personality, ability to talk, humor and understanding completely conquered me.

I no longer felt the age limit. I started calling myself by my first name instead of “you”. Our relationship was erased by the age gap… And then, I decided to propose to her. She still kept her usual cool attitude. She said she loved me, but at her age, she didn’t want her heart to suffer too much. She knew this love story was hard to accept and didn’t want to make herself suffer.

I brought her home to meet my parents, of course my parents did not agree. No parent wants their son to love a girl nearly ten years older than him. My parents forced me to date a girl who lived nearby, a few years younger, had a stable job, and was equally good-looking.

Listening to my parents, I went to meet them, but because I still loved the other person, I didn't feel anything. My parents tried to persuade, beg, and threaten me not to marry someone 8 years older than me. They also said they were afraid that if I married her, I wouldn't be able to have children.

I love her but I am confused. I dare not tell her this for fear of hurting her. She told me to get married normally, because it would be difficult for us to get support. She is also afraid of gossip. I will get married, and she and I can become lovers, lifelong friends, no need to get married.

I feel tormented, not knowing whether to give up or to take the risk and marry a girl 8 years older than me. Could it be that this feeling is wrong? Or will the huge difference cause problems in the marriage later? What should I do with this love?

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