Women's Unreasonable Expectations Make Marriage Unhappy

Expectation is an important part of daily life. It helps us live better and have faith in good things. But not all expectations are good, especially when we demand too unreasonably.

Here are some unrealistic expectations of wives that keep them never satisfied and the family always in a state of tension.

I hope your husband understands everything you have gone through during the day.

Expecting your partner to be able to guess your emotional and physical needs for the day is a sure way to start a war. Try to put yourself in his shoes, do you know what he went through that day, what bad things happened? If you can’t fully understand what your husband faced in a day, then neither can he. Therefore, don’t make your husband become a psychic to guess what’s behind your gloomy, upset face. Be open about your day, tell him what you went through, and tell him what you want.

Expecting your partner to figure out your emotional and physical needs for the day is a surefire way to… start a war. (Illustration photo)

But don’t stop there, don’t just tell him and not listen. You also need to ask him a question in return: “How was your day?” and start listening to what he has to say. If you both take the time to listen, there will be no more misunderstandings and dissatisfaction.

Hope my husband can do… everything

Let me repeat, your husband is a human being, not a… superman. And no matter how good or talented he is, he still has his flaws. You can’t just be resentful and think everything is terrible just because “your friend’s husband” can do this, but your husband can’t. If he’s good at this, he’ll be bad at something else, that’s perfectly natural. And the models you compare him to are never perfect, in their own families, they’re also bad at this and that. Never be dissatisfied or disappointed just because your husband can’t do everything you expect and imagine.

Never be dissatisfied or disappointed just because your husband cannot do everything as you expected and imagined. (Illustration photo)

I hope my husband will always stand by me.

Husband and wife are supposed to agree and love each other, that is true. But it does not mean that he will agree with you in everything. And when the two of you have differences, disagreements, it is not a bad sign. Women often feel hopeless when their husbands do not stand by them in some cases, however, this is completely normal because you are not always right.

Open communication is essential for a successful marriage. Accept your differences.

Always expect your husband to be the first to apologize

I don't understand why you expect this when you know very well that in marriage or in any social relationship, people only apologize when they are truly at fault. And if after every argument or quarrel you force your husband to give in first, that is not a good way to do it for your relationship.

If after every argument or quarrel you force your husband to give in first, it is not good for your relationship. (Illustration)

When you are right, it is natural for him to apologize. But even when you are right, it is not necessary to force your husband to bow his head and admit his mistake… As long as you handle it tactfully, deep down, your husband will understand his mistake and apologize through action.

Expecting your husband to read your mind

This may sound redundant but it still needs to be repeated to wives, your husband is not a psychic to read your thoughts. The problem is not how long you two love each other to understand each other completely but because this is inherently impossible.

Of course, it would be great if your husband understood what you wanted even if you didn't say it, but that's in special cases, not in all circumstances, and it's not a rule to judge whether he loves you or is good to you. Besides, guessing correctly once doesn't mean he can always understand your thoughts.

So whatever you need, tell your husband, share your desires and let him never have to struggle with guessing again.

According to Phununews