'Teacher, I'm 22 years old but why do I feel so lost?' and the valuable sharing of a young teacher

When confiding in his teacher, this student expressed his disappointment with himself. Immediately after, the young teacher shared his sincere, close but also extremely profound thoughts.

Many people joke that if you are young and not tired and exhausted, it means you are on the wrong path. Therefore, it is not strange that young people feel lost.

For young people in their 20s, this imbalance is even more likely to occur. 20 years old - unfinished studies, unfinished love, uncertain future work, and so many expectations from family placed on our shoulders that make us feel confused and scared.

Recently, an article sharing how to deal with the crisis of 20 years old from a young teacher has caused a stir on social networks. Specifically, a student sent an anonymous message to Mr. Tran Trinh Tuong - an English lecturer with the content:

"Teacher, I'm 22 years old but I feel so lost. My studies are terrible and I have no talent. I feel so incompetent, life is boring, I don't know what I need to do to get out of this deadlock.

My passion has long since died when I had to study a major that I don't like. Please give me some advice..."

In response to this message, Mr. Tuong sent the anonymous student a very detailed sharing about how to overcome difficulties in adulthood. With his own experiences as well as observations from the surrounding, Mr. Tuong explained each aspect of youth such as health, personal development, career, love, family...

Specifically, here is an excerpt from the sharing of Mr. Tran Trinh Tuong:

"Hello 22 years old, the age full of energy and vitality!

Reading your message, I'm not surprised because there are many people like you these days! Graduated at 22 years old, feeling lost, helpless, not knowing what you want, what you do, what you're good at, what you're passionate about or don't know...

Know a little bit about everything but not good at anything professionally, can't get a job when applying for one, and if I get one, it's not something I like. Just work to get by, make a living, surf Facebook to relieve stress, chat with friends for fun. When I'm alone, I feel very sad, self-conscious, depressed, or sometimes really lonely...

If anyone has seen themselves in this, please continue reading! The teacher's answer is: "IT'S OK! LIFE IS STILL BEAUTIFUL!"

First of all, please cherish the most basic thing: you are still alive! Recently, I had a student born in the 90s, young, beautiful, talented, and cute, but suddenly received news that he passed away due to heart disease...

I was so surprised and felt sorry for her! That's how short life is. While we still have a day to live, let's live happily, cherish every breath, every moment we live.

You are very lucky to be human and to be alive! The feelings of depression and helplessness you are experiencing are only temporary. You can change, transform, learn and renew your life. Starting over is wonderful!

I want to tell you to LOVE YOURSELF. Even the fact that you have to study "a major you don't love" is already torturing you. Don't let pressure from family or society force you to study or do something that doesn't come from your heart.

Always do what you love and want (within the bounds of ethics & law) and fight for it. If your parents keep forcing you to study a major you don’t like just because it’s their dream, then you also have your own dreams and passions.

Communicate with your parents to understand you! Each person only has a few decades to live, otherwise when you die, you will regret it forever.

Step out into the world. Live with direction, clear goals, and aspirations, my dear!!! Start from the circle of life!

1. Health

Love yourself, give yourself a healthy, beautiful body, full of energy, you will be fascinated by yourself, let alone others. The important thing is that your inner spirit must be fresh and healthy, my dear! Exercise 45 minutes every day.

Practice a sport you love and study it carefully, it will make you happy, if you are not healthy you will be lazy and bored!

2. Personal development

Books! Cheap, nutritious, quality, that's our teacher! Go to a bookstore, spend 2 hours reading all the titles and choose one that suits your soul and the problem you're facing.

Whenever I have problems, books are always the best solution, giving me wisdom, someone to talk to, friends, teachers and helping me grow up! Always have books and read books.

You won't believe how good a person you will become after 1 year if you read books regularly. Self-development books, science books, books about your passion, books about beautifying the soul... Choose. I still recommend "Understanding the Heart" by Mr. Minh Niem and "Playing for Fun" at this stage.

Besides, I can learn English, go swimming, dance, sing, play badminton... It makes my life fun and creative, and I have more friends.

3. Financial career

Pursue your passion! It seems like you know what you love, but loving something doesn’t mean you’ll be successful. It takes practice, sacrifice, and focus over time and not giving up.

Learn a trade, hang out with people in the industry you’re passionate about, apply for internships, apprenticeships. Pick up the phone or inbox their Facebook to get an apprenticeship.

Take action and you will be rejected but it is better than no failure to learn. And then persevere and you will get a satisfactory job. Your life will turn a new page!

If you don't know what you want, do the same as above. And while doing it, observe whether it's suitable for you, what you're good at, and what you want.

4. Love

22 years old, love! Love helps you become emotionally intelligent, increase your communication skills and become mature! No one teaches us to grow up like the people we love! Read some books about love, love sincerely, with both reason and emotion.

I wish you to grow up through your relationships, and remember to read some books about love such as "If love is a game, these are rules" or "On love". Love also requires experience and wisdom!

5. Family
Spend time taking care of your parents, asking about your family, at least once a week. If your relationship with your family is not stable, then focus on yourself first, build your career, health, and strong emotions. Then you will be an example and a support to love your family.

6. Friends
Choose your friends wisely, play with positive, honest and sincere friends. Quality is important, not quantity!

And have a close friend, your friends are a reflection of who you are! Be a good person and choose good friends, your life will be happy when you have friends, each friend is a color for this life.

And dear, everything you need to have a clear goal, something to strive for, then your life will be happy. Our brains are always looking for something to focus on. If you don't set positive and useful goals for your brain, your life will be boring! Love yourself and focus on helping more people. Only by helping others can you grow up, because helping others is helping yourself. Changing your life is not difficult, dear."

Immediately after appearing online, this post received nearly 4k likes and more than 3.5k shares. The words and advice seem simple and familiar but are extremely useful, especially for those in their 20s.

Sharing with Kenh14, Mr. Tuong said he was quite surprised because he did not think that his sharing would attract so much attention. Although this article is quite long, it only took 15, 20 minutes to complete because everything was taken from personal emotions and experiences.

After yesterday, many young people sent more messages hoping to receive similar advice. This young teacher promised that he would try to answer all of them when he had free time.

According to Phunutoday