Should couples set up a secret fund?

(Baonghean.vn)- How will it affect married life if a husband or wife sets up a separate secret fund for themselves?

When you are married, you will share the same financial resources. However, if one spouse keeps some money for himself or herself and does not tell the other about its existence, it is called a slush fund.

The question is, should you or should you not set up a separate fund for yourself to use without consulting your spouse?

Should we set up a slush fund? Why?

Illustration

Husband and wife live together in two completely different families, and therefore the feelings of the daughter - mother's family, son - mother's family, daughter-in-law - husband's family and son-in-law - wife's family will also be different. If you have your own financial resources, you can help your relatives without consulting your wife or husband.

For husbands, many people think that women will not always be willing to give money to their husbands to help their relatives. But seeing relatives in trouble without helping, the husbands cannot bear it. Therefore, each man also needs his own money to do those things. Many wives also set up secret funds for the same purpose.

In fact, when the family's finances are sufficient, it is a good thing for the husband or wife to want to help their family members. However, sometimes the husband or wife will not feel comfortable about this and secretly bring money to help their family members. And conversely, when the wife (husband) realizes that the family's finances are not yet abundant and the paternal (maternal) family still needs their help, they do not want to put more pressure on their spouse. Therefore, they also quietly save up a small amount of money for their own expenses when needed.

In addition, men often have to go out on diplomatic missions, so they cannot always ask their wives for money. They need to have their own money to spend on their personal needs.

No, because...

Illustration

As a couple, you should share the same financial resources, you should not set up a separate fund outside of the family account. Many people think that setting up a secret fund means using it for unclear purposes such as: supporting a mistress, having an affair...

In case the wife or husband discovers that the secret fund appears along with "black stories", your marriage will have quite big cracks. Once the secret fund is exposed, it will create suspicion for your spouse and have a very bad impact on family life. And in fact, many happy marriages have broken down just because secret funds have become popular.

And in summary:

Black funds in married life have both good and bad sides.

When the person who sets up and uses the secret fund has a good purpose, it is completely acceptable and can receive sympathy and forgiveness from the spouse when the secret fund is exposed. In this situation, the husband and wife must truly trust each other absolutely, thinking that the husband (wife) who hides it from them only wants the best for the family's happiness and does not want to cause more worries for the spouse.

But on the negative side, setting up a secret fund can cause cracks that are difficult to heal between couples; it can be the main cause of broken family happiness.

Therefore, depending on your family situation and your partner's personality, you should decide whether or not to set up a secret fund to preserve your family's happiness.

T. P (synthesis)