My husband always asks for a divorce when he is angry.

We argued for about 2 weeks, he even asked to sell the house to pay off debt and break up, he was tired, he didn't regret this marriage anymore.

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My husband and I are over 30 years old. He is from the North, I am from Saigon, he is not proactive from small things to bedroom matters, and is also patriarchal and very egotistical. Although I have to go out to work to support the family financially, he thinks that as a woman, I have to know how to take care of everything by myself, from housework to meals. Sometimes the workload is too much, I cannot keep up with the housework, so a cold war happens. He will go out drinking for at least 2 weeks, coming home at midnight every time we have an argument. After that, when he comes home, he takes out the blankets and sleeps separately, does not touch anything his wife buys, does not eat home-cooked meals, until I beg him to stop. Sometimes, I am so tired that I ask for a divorce, he agrees immediately, without thinking or regretting anything.

Recently we discussed mortgaging my family's house papers to buy land to build a house, all the land and house are thanks to my parents' help. Now each month my husband and I have to pay the bank 7 million, we have paid for 2 years. In the past 2 years, my husband and I have also had financial difficulties, and he keeps changing jobs so I mainly shoulder everything. I do not complain or ask him for anything, knowing his sensitive nature, if I complain he will be sad.

One day my car didn't start, I asked him to take it to get fixed (at the end of the month I had to take care of many things so I didn't have money to fix it). When it couldn't run anymore, I asked him to help me push the car to get fixed. In front of my family, he shouted, "Pull it yourself to get it fixed. The car broke down and I kept asking him to take it to get fixed, but he wouldn't go." At that time, I was so angry that I shouted at him, "Where do you get the money to fix it?" So from then on, he told me he wouldn't eat at home anymore, don't cook for him. Every month, he would give me an amount to help pay the bank, and not touch anything of mine anymore. We argued for about 2 weeks, he even asked to sell the house to pay off the debt and break up, he was tired, he didn't regret this marriage anymore. What should I do?

According to VNE