My husband always asks for a divorce when he is angry.

We argued for about 2 weeks, he even asked to sell the house to pay off debt and then break up, he was tired, he didn't regret this marriage anymore.

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My husband and I are over 30 years old. He is from the North, I am from Saigon, he is not proactive in small things, even in the bedroom, and he is also very patriarchal and egotistical. Although I have to go out to work to support the family, he thinks that as a woman, I have to take care of everything by myself, from the house to meals. Sometimes, work is too much, I can't keep up with the housework, so the cold war happens. He will go out drinking for at least 2 weeks, coming home at midnight every time we have an argument. After that, when he comes home, he takes out the blankets and sleeps separately, doesn't touch anything his wife buys, doesn't eat home-cooked meals, until I beg him to stop. Sometimes, I am so tired that I ask for a divorce, he agrees immediately, without thinking or regretting anything.

Recently, we discussed mortgaging my family's house papers to buy land to build a house. All the land and house were supported by my parents. Now, my husband and I have to pay the bank 7 million every month, and we have been paying for 2 years. In the past 2 years, my husband and I have also had financial difficulties. He kept changing jobs, so I mainly shouldered everything. I did not complain or ask him anything, knowing that he is sensitive and if I complained, he would be sad.

One day my car didn't start, I asked him to take it to get fixed (at the end of the month I had to take care of everything so I didn't have money to fix it). When it couldn't run anymore, I asked him to help me push the car to get fixed. In front of my family, he shouted, "Pull it yourself to get it fixed. The car broke down and I told him to go get it fixed but he wouldn't go." At that time, I was so angry that I shouted at him, "Where do you get the money to fix it?". From then on, he told me he wouldn't eat at home anymore, don't cook for him. Every month, he would give me an amount to help pay the bank, and wouldn't touch anything of mine anymore. We argued for about 2 weeks, he even asked me to sell the house to pay off the debt and then break up. He was tired and didn't regret this marriage anymore. What should I do?

According to VNE