Signs that your marriage is about to fall apart

For many couples, divorce before they reach their 30s is inevitable.

A 2001 survey by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 20% of couples divorce within the first five years of marriage. Here are some signs your marriage may not stand the test of time and is headed for the rocks:

1. Things go from bad to worse after the wedding

Many women spend a lot of money on preparing for the perfect wedding such as ordering flowers, choosing a wedding dress, taking photos, booking a party... The mountain of work preparing for the wedding distracts you from the important fact that married life after the wedding is important and you need to pay attention to it.

Couples who have conflicting personalities, such as those with incompatible personalities, who cannot communicate well, or who have completely different lifestyles and interests (one is a stay-at-home person while the other is into fun activities) can end up disillusioned with their marriage. A wedding is not the end, it is the beginning of a new life and you need to know what to expect.

2. Not really ready for married life

Many couples get married right out of college and miss out on the many exciting things that single life can offer without the responsibilities of being tied down to anyone else. When one of the partners often regrets not being able to take personal trips to a dream destination, volunteering, etc., it is a sign that they are not really ready for the commitment of marriage.

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3. Get married despite the conflicts

Many couples think that a formal wedding ceremony in front of family and friends will “magically” transform a troubled relationship into a dream marriage. These couples need to wake up. The first few years of married life will be a test to see if the couple is compatible and ready to face the storms together. When the problems that a newlywed couple faces are stressful, angry but have a strong belief that the marriage certificate will solve all obstacles, divorce will only be a matter of time.

4. No role models to follow

If your ideal model and experience of marriage is only through movies, then the idea of ​​a happy marriage without effort is unthinkable. Marriage always requires both sides to put in a lot of effort and life skills - things you lack when you are still immature.

Children observe their parents’ marriage. When you see your parents treating their spouse with hostility and disrespect, you see that as normal. And that is how you will treat your future spouse and expect to be treated the same way. Without guidance or role models, the likelihood of a couple breaking up is inevitable.

5. Lack of patience

Many young couples do not have enough maturity, maturity or patience to recognize the signs of abnormality in the relationship and rush into marriage. For example, they do not consider boredom or conflict as a big deal but think that they have to learn to accept the shortcomings of the other person. Therefore, the marriage will not last long. And only when it breaks down do you realize what is truly worthy and suitable for you.

According to VNE