Types of couples that are likely to divorce

Couples who choose each other despite each other's "unacceptable" flaws have a very low chance of staying together for long.

Some couples are made for each other with a special kind of compatibility, but others have nothing in common, to the point where you wonder how they got together in the first place.

Below are the shares of psychologists and experts on marriage and family on Huffingtonpost on why some couples are more likely to break up if they get married:

Couples with big differences in love power

No one wants to be the one who gets less attention from their partner. It is really an emotional injustice in the family and this is really not good for your long-term relationship,Kristin Davin, a psychologist in New York, USA said.

"If you find yourself always being the one emotionally dependent on the other person, this will change the balance of the relationship," says the expert.“This person will become resentful and increasingly find the relationship more of a burden than a joy,” Davin says.

A relationship requires a lot of effort, care and attention, but at the end of the day, your partner is an added spice to your life, not a burden, says the psychologist.

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Couples get married because they meet all the criteria

Having a list of criteria you want in your "other half" is smart. But don't forget that the important thing is still sincere feelings for each other, real vibrations, and shared values ​​when looking for the man or woman of your life,Virginia Gilbert, a marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, USA said.

"There's nothing wrong with marrying a tall, handsome, lean, college-educated guy... but if you don't share the same values ​​(like you believe in monogamy and he doesn't), you need to throw out your old list of criteria and rewrite it with something more realistic and relevant to you.

The couple did not care at all about the criteria for finding a partner.

On the contrary, couples who choose each other despite the shortcomings of their "other half" that they found difficult to accept when they first fell in love have a very low chance of staying together for a long time.Marcia Naomi Berger, a psychologist and author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love, shares.

"These are fundamentally irreconcilable differences. That's why it's important to talk about each person's needs in the relationship before getting married. For example, if one person wants children and the other doesn't - and neither of them is determined to change - then they shouldn't get married," the psychologist says.

Couples always get back at each other

She betrayed him, so he took revenge by sleeping with his female colleague. He refused to go to dinner with her at his friend's house, and so they stopped going to parties together...

In a relationship, retaliation is actually destructive,Marina Sbrochi, author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life, shares.

“This game continues, escalates, and repeats, until one of the two people finally realizes and has the courage to leave all the arguments behind, along with their dead relationship,” the expert says.

The couple has nothing in common but sexual passion.

A healthy, passionate sex life is essential for most couples. But you and your partner need to share more than just an interest in sex. A lasting relationship requires more than sex, says psychologistBerger reminded.

"To see if you and your partner are really compatible, you both have to date and get to know each other long enough before deciding to live together," she said.

The couple has a huge age gap.

For most of us, age really isn't just a number when it comes to relationships, psychologists say.Sbrochi said.

"Most people shouldn't date someone who is more than 30 years older or younger than them, because the two people are at two really different stages of development," she said. According to her, sBeing young is fun but when you are truly emotionally mature, you don't need to relive a stage of your life through someone else.

Couples where one or both partners are narcissistic

Not everyone you date who appears to be narcissistic has narcissistic personality disorder. But people who are truly self-absorbed have a hard time maintaining a long-term relationship, psychologists say.Berger said.

"Simply put, if a person worships himself too much, it will be difficult for him to feel and share with his partner. Empathy is an indispensable part of a lasting and fulfilling marriage. Even a wife or husband who is emotionally neglected will want to end the marriage immediately," said the psychologist.

Couples don't talk about money

Don't assume that any money issues, whether personal or romantic, will be resolved when you get married. Financial conversations may not be romantic, but they should be had early and often. In fact, researchers at the University ofKansas, USA, recently found that arguments related to finances are the biggest predictor of divorce.

"Don't focus on planning the wedding rather than planning your family life afterwards because that's a recipe for marital failure. Talk about who will work, how you'll contribute financially to each other, and how things will change if one of you stays home to care for the children," says the psychologist.Berger advises.

Couple "I hate you but can't live without you"

According to psychologistGilbert, cThis dramatic lovebird archetype may be appealing in movies but is not suitable for normal family life: constant quarrels, breakups and reunions....

"These relationships are fueled by drama - heated arguments, infidelity, sexual abuse... Typically, the two people in the relationship are attention-seeking individuals who choose to ignore the lack of harmony and empathy for each other because they are addicted to something so intense," the expert said.

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