9 secrets men want women to know

Men also need compliments, if men want something from women, they should say it directly in words.

Melinda Fox, a writer for FamilyShare, said she was surprised to find that men who go out at night are not as careful as she is: She never wears headphones when she goes out at night, always pays attention and knows who she has passed, and especially always keeps pepper spray on her person just in case. She was even more surprised to find that not only are men careless, but they also don't realize how careful women are.

Here are nine secrets men wish women understood, according to Fox:

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1. Men want women not to see them as the devil

"We are not the enemy of women. The way many women talk about men makes me very sad."

2. Men crave compliments

"Most men need positive reinforcement more than you think. You may think that thanking him for doing chores every day is worthless. In fact, a simple thank you always makes men feel grown up and useful."

3. Men don't want to be stereotyped based on gender.

"Not all men are interested in sports. Some men are better at raising children and taking care of the house than their wives, some men are more sensitive than women and that is not a feminine trait at all."

4. Men feel pressured when too many expectations are placed on them.

"It's not easy being a man. People always expect a man to be confident, masculine, tall, muscular, successful, brave, sweet... This puts a lot of pressure on us."

5. Wants you to keep his secrets

"Men often do not find it easy to find someone to confide in. Society seems to be unfamiliar with a guy showing sentimental feelings when love breaks up. Therefore, if after breaking up, you share his secret with others and judge him as sentimental, he will feel like the whole world is turning its back on him."

6. Know that you are always on his mind

"I think about you all the time, sometimes the smallest things make me think of you but I can't always show it. Sometimes I get so confused with my own thoughts and feelings. But trust me, you're on my mind."

7. Ask for what you want

"If you want something, don't be silent and let men guess. Say it clearly and directly with words."

8. Don't want to be rejected

"Men feel hurt when they are rejected, but it feels a lot worse when they are lied to or avoided. You may have your own reasons for rejecting him, but don't pretend that you're doing it for his benefit."

9. Let him be a lover

"He wants to protect his girlfriend, like a small spoon used to support food."

According to VNE