Family is a place of love

Towards Vietnamese Family Day June 28, Nghe An Newspaper had a conversation with Ms. Tran Thi My Hanh - Deputy Director of the Department of Culture and Sports about her concerns to build a happy family.

PV:Madam, in the new era, a happy family is not only the desire of the people in that family but also the desire of the whole society. There is a saying: "Happy family, prosperous society". Only when the family is happy, people will have the spirit to build and develop society. So what do you think about this?

Ms. Tran Thi My Hanh:Yes, since ancient times we have known that the family is the cell of society; the cradle that forms the personality of children. During his lifetime, President Ho Chi Minh always paid attention to the role of the family. Uncle Ho affirmed: “It is right to pay attention to the family and many families together make up a society, good families make a good society, good societies make even better families, the nucleus of society is the family. Therefore, to build socialism, we must pay attention to the nucleus.”

A good nucleus means that each person in the family is healthy both physically and mentally and always has the desire to contribute to building a prosperous society. Because when we live in a good society, we will automatically enjoy good things. And conversely, if there are many unhappy families in society, that community will also lack cohesion and become weak. Therefore, our Party and State always pay attention to the nuclear role of the family. Over the past many years, we have made many efforts in family work, aiming to improve the quality of life in each residential community.

Hundreds of models of happy families, families raising healthy children and educating good children, or cultural families have been widely deployed, practically and with high influence. From the issuance of documents on family work, we have had assessments, learned experiences and replicated models of happy families.
PV:So, madam, if we talk about a happy family model, we understand it as a healthy, sharing, loving family. It sounds like it is within the reach of each individual, but in reality, many people still do not understand why they cannot have sharing and warmth in their family. So, in your opinion, to have a happy family, how should each family member cooperate?
Ms. Tran Thi My Hanh:As I understand it, for Catholics, marriage is a very sacred thing, a covenant given by God, a sacrament in the spiritual life of the faithful. Every time a man and a woman are married by the Father on behalf of God, it is considered an eternal covenant.
Buddhism considers marriage as a social duty, following the law of cause and effect. When a man and a woman find their other half and agree to marry and live together under the same roof, they have only gone half the way. The other half must be built by the two. And according to Buddhism, to fulfill their social duty and bring happiness to themselves and those around them, both people must “sow good seeds”.
There is a saying that I find very true:“Harmony does not fall from the sky but is regulated between two people”.Each individual has his own ego, so when living together, he needs to regulate himself to reach harmony. And to regulate, he needs to have the right perception depending on the living conditions.According to statistics from documents on marriage and family, conflicts between husband and wife can arise around 4 major issues: finances, children, sex and work.If each of us resolves the conflicts arising from these issues well, there will be a certain harmony.